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    Gold Member Alice Torn's Avatar
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    I think better in lady mode, but, i don't look bad, in nice guy clothes. I used to HATE MY GUY SELF!! Was sometimes suicidal over it. In recovery mode now, accepting him.
    IT TAKES A REAL DRESS TO WEAR A MAN.

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    More comfortable in female mode. I'm always underdressed. My wife thinks I'm very passable, thanks to her help and advices.

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    Quote Originally Posted by CarlaWestin View Post
    Whether it be in person, in pictures or, just in your mind, in which mode do you look better?

    Without a doubt, male mode. Because of my height and build, I will never truly pass as a woman. However, if I spend hours preparing and get fully dressed in flattering clothing with forms, cinched corset, thigh and booty pads, full makeup, wig, etc.. And get REALLY done up right, I actually do think I do look really attractive. Not like a fashion model or anything,... much more like a Glamzon bodybuilder Babe... lol... not that I'm a male bodybuilder or anything, but I do workout enough that my masculine body features are not able to be hidden... but I think I can still can look really good as a gurl!

    Now, When I don't spend all of that time getting "femmed out" and just throw on some gurly clothes and gurly heels/boots, I know I just look pretty silly... but I do still feel great!��

    I know with the internet being anonymous, everyone claims to be Adonis... and I know beauty is in the eye of the beholder and completely subjective... However, I really do look quite good for a guy. I take good care of myself and was was gifted with some really great masculine features. Great nose, square chin, high cheekbones, full head of dark blonde hair, blue eyes, straight teeth, great smile, great symmetry etc.... However, those masculine features don't translate into a truly "passable" femme look. I have had several girlfriends in the past want to put makeup on me just goofing around, and when they did they almost all got a little flustered and surprised by how it turned out.. they all thought I looked really "pretty" and there were even a few times the makeup session turned into a sexual encounter... but not dressing... just with makeup... But, still, with them just goofing around with makeup, they all thought I looked really good. And I did too! Lol.

    I'm also 6' 3" and pretty fit so I will always be gigantic. No matter how hourglass I try to make my figure, there will always be the biceps, triceps, pecs, delta, quads, calves, etc, that look much more masculine them feminine... again... much more like a female bodybuilder... And I'm not trying to brag or sound like a blowhard about my masculine appearance... just being honest... I've done some modeling, and even a bit of acting when I was still in my 20's.... nothing too serious,.... But I am well into my 30s now,... I still take care of myself and look and feel significantly younger than other guys my age... and so far, I haven't had to take the plastic surgery plunge. .. and I also typically do really well with the ladies.l. I usually get hit on several times when I go out to bars, clubs, concerts, etc. Although, I have crossed that age threshold where I look mature enough that I can't pass for being in my 20s and have much success picking up girls that are under say- 23? Not that I'm trying to land women that have just turned 21 or anything but I do know that I've gone to clubs and its obvious to the patrons that I'm in my 30s... no gray hair... no balding... not really any wrinkles... just a more "mature, distinguished" look. It was depressing crossing that line... getting older is really depressing for me... but, that being said, it did open up a whole new level of cougar chasing, lol...

    having said all of that, deep down inside, I'm incredibly self-conscious many times and nervous about how I look. I can put on a great facade and pass as being confident, but I really do worry about my looks. But, I think that's a pretty common trait amongst those who are considered "attractive".

    Which is another reason why I wonder about my "dressing" fetish... maybe my inner self-loathing and lack of confidence helped push me towards "dressing" and my feelings of "shame" about it and my shortcomings... some inner desire to be humiliated? ... exposed?... used?... dominated?.... I really don't know... whe I was a kid, I was a year younger than everyone else in my class... I was always shorter... held on to baby fat longer... went through puberty last.., but then when I was 12, I seemed to go through about a years worth of puberty in just a couple of weeks. I shot up almost a foot total and all of that child baby fat suddenly stretched out and found its place... I went from being teased up until I was 12, to almost immediately having a completely 100% natural fully body and face makeover that improved my social life dramatically and has continued to this day... it tremendously improved my high school and college experience and made moving from a small college town after I graduated college, to a big city... to be honest... it was literally like one of those 80s movies about the geek who turned cool... but I still remained a bit of a geek on the inside. Lol �� and although it may not sound like it with what I've typed, I've always remained very grounded, kind, and humble about my appearance. I may know it, but I don't really show it..

    Still, all of that the teasing and the bullying I went through those first 12 years obviously left scars, because I still have those fears about how I look and how others perceive me to this day...

    but I'd love to get some input from others that dress too... I know I'm not the typical member on here as my dressing is really just strictly a fetish... and I know many on here don't like that because no that either I don't belong, or that I give other CDs a bad name... even though I keep things g rated on here and follow the rules.. still, I'd love to hear from others on this.
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    Some women used to tell me that I look an interesting guy, other say handsome, even though in my university years I had some success with girls I never felt really confident with my appearance, too short, straight hair, etc but when I dress like a woman for the very first time I see nice sexy shapes, then with good make up i can see some special light in my face, now with my own growing hair I feel much more femine with just some make up, a dress and some heels, so in femme is my real comfort zone, I am a woman!
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    At my age, properly outfitted in my pretties and in makeup, FEMALE and 20 years younger!

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    in my mind I look better when crossdressed - but I rarely look in a mirror

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    Male mode, But only because I haven't perfected my female mode appearance. I'm a bit scared of going down the rabbit hole further.

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    Carla,
    Teresa wins everytime, I person and in pictures !

    I've never had anyone compliment me in male mode for the way I look so it's great to receive that treatment in femme mode, I never considered having nice legs as a man but all the GGs can't stop making comments when wearing a dress or skirt with heels .

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    I think I am definitely more attractive as a female. Either that, or no one bothers to complement my appearance in male mode any more. It helps that while en-femme I look at least 10 to 20 years younger!

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    I think female for sure

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    Male. While not being handsome, I'm pretty tall, have good posture, and wear suits, dress shirts, dress slacks, dress shoes and blazers as casual wear instead of jeans, sneakers, T shirts and such (I don't usually wear ties, though, but I always have extras in a bag I keep in the car should the need arise). A long time ago, I read books about body language and image, so I adopted attire and behavior that makes me look more affluent than I actually am. I also try very hard to avoid saying or doing anything that might be considered snobbish, because I've seen a lot of rich people who dress like I do behave really badly to others while trying to impress that they're better than they are. I was lucky to have older male relatives that were well grounded as role models when I was growing up. There were many men from what is called 'the greatest generation' who were very successful, but not full of themselves. I've tried to emulate the way they respected others as best I can; having grown up being treated badly by a lot of people, I know how much it hurts, so I would never want to cause those feelings in others.

    Female mode? Nah. I don't look anything like a GG. In fact, I've read on this very forum that there are GG's that would find it offensive that I feel most comfortable in a traditional female subordinate role, wearing what are outfits that they consider demeaning to be requested to wear. All I can say to them, is that is how I feel, and I apologize if it offends them. But it's a result of how I grew up, and I didn't decide to feel comfortable that way, I just do.
    Some causes of crossdressing you've probably never even considered: My TG biography at:http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/...=1#post1490560
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    Why don't we understand our desire to dress, behave and feel like a girl? Because from childhood, boys are told that the worst possible thing we can be, is a sissy. This feeling is so ingrained into our psyche, that we will suppress any thoughts that connect us to being or wanting to be feminine, even to the point of creating separate personalities to assign those female feelings into.

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    I am better looking in male mode but I feel sooooo much better in female mode. So much nicer, care more about people, just feel so much better in general. I even watch different shows that I would not watch in male mode like "Yes to that dress", "Hallmark channel" , the "chick flicks", some of the shopping channels. Just a whole different person when dressed and I love that side of me,
    Brandy Mathews

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    Definitely male mode as I have promised to keep my goatee. But I feel more beautiful in anything girly! 😘 The mirror lies to me on how I feel inside.

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    Female. Though i don't believe I am attractive (in the physical sense) in either mode sadly.

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    Yes I am much more attractive as a female. I have a slim build and don't work-out so I don't look all that great in male-mode. But when I spend the time to get properly made-up then my slim build allows me to look rather attractive as a Fem. I seem to be pleasing on the eyes to the many men who have seemed to notice LOL.

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    Would have to say male mode. My wife consistently tells me I make an ugly woman. Too tall with board shoulders to be passable.
    If it was easy, everyone would be doing it.

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    Hi Carla , In Male mode it is what it is, But En-Feme there is so much you can do to embellish your looks ......
    Having my ears triple pierced is AWESOME, ~~......

    I can explain it to you, But I can't comprehend it for you !

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jenniferpl View Post
    My wife consistently tells me I make an ugly woman. Too tall with board shoulders to be passable.
    My wife tells me the same thing and it's definitely true.

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    Female every time Carla.
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    Female for sure...even my wife says I'm prettier than her when I'm dressed up and she's a beautiful blue eyed blonde.
    Wearing my fuschia bodycon dress:
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    For the first time, outdoors during the day:
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    Yup Female for sure, makeup does miracles for bad skin plus helps make you look pretty.
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    Definitely female mode !
    Sometimes I like to dress as Linda Leigh

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    Male mode. In male mode, women look at me and smile all the time. In female mode, no one gives me a second glance.

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    I pretty sure the large majority on this site will be female. I would certainly use female as a preferred look. But how would GGs feel, or other folks who aren't transgendered. I have been told I am a good looking guy. I don't find guys very good looking for the most part. To me I definitely look better in fem mode. But beauty is in the eye of the beholder
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    Neither in my case. But it's OK, you have to work with what you are given. Letting my weight get to 240 does not help either.

    But you ladies are very lovely!

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