Nice quiet cup of tea, or so I thought !

[Teresa]

I know this is a simple little story but sometimes it does us good to live it and share it with others.

Last night was our monthly social meeting, the hotel we use now is much larger and more accommodating so I thought I would get ready early and see if I could meet up with other members for afternoon tea.

The meeting room was empty when I arrived so I made my way back to the bar and asked for a pot of tea , there were a few people seated but not busy . The waiter carried the tea tray to the softer seated area around the fireplace and I settled down on a sofa . I was wearing a fitted b/w spotted skirt a fitted short sleeved white blouse in a crinkle material, my favourite Next jacket and 3.5 " black heels . As I was facing the fireplace I had my back to the room quietly enjoying my drink ,vaguely aware that the noise level was gradually increasing behind me . As the time neared for the meeting I picked up my jacket and black handbag , carefully and as gracefully as possible stood up in my heels and turned to find the room was full. There was a cross section of elderly couples, families and younger ones having a drink and a bar meal possibly after using the leisure facilities . I wouldn't say I was overdressed , I intentionally kept it blendable but even so I appeared to be the only one wearing the same size of heels.

In that moment I thought about the threads talking about the correct walk. The bartender has always greeted us with a lovely smile, he stood behind the bar at the other end of the room so I gave him a look and a smile, his broaden even wider so I just thought go for it. As I glanced around people did look but nothing out of the ordinary , my heart wasn't pounding , it did feel good just doing normal things dressed .

Later that evening I had to use the Ladies toilets as the disabled ones I use as a compromise were out of use.I did get into a conversation with a GG and a pregnant lady gave me a lovely smile.

One question I did wonder about is why was the seat left up in the cubicle when I entered ?

[Jenniferpl]

You go girl.

Intriguing regarding the restroom.

[ChristinaK]

Hmmm, good question about the toilet seat. Maybe someone cleaned the toilet and left the seat up. When I'm in the Ladies Room, I always act like a lady and sit. I certainly don't want the other ladies hearing me pee!

Sounds like that's a nice bar you were in. We don't have many quaint and cozy places like that on this side of the pond, especially in California.

Like many of us, you just try your hardest to fit in. I laugh because your outfit sounds elegant and tasteful. 30 years ago you wouldn't have been overdressed at all! I tend to dress a little nicer than most women today and although it might make me a little more conspicuous, at least I'm classy conspicuous and not trashy conspicuous!

Best wishes on your new life Teresa. I've been divorced twice and it's not easy even if it was you that split the sheets.

[Teresa]

Christina,
Thanks for your last words of of encouragement, I'm going to need them .

As for the outfit, I had to smile with your elegant comment because it didn't come at a price , the skirt has a French label and was part of a selection of clothes sent to me from my counsellor, I thought a white ruffle blouse would work with it but the nice easycare crinkle one set me back about $3.00, my Next jacket was about $15.00 and the shoes were a swap with Carole because her black patent were too tight and mine were a size too big.

My theory about the seat is ladies tend to use toilet tissue to wipe their nose, so they lift the lid to dispose of it and don't put the lid down, OK it could have been one of our members who hasn't lost some bad habits even when dressed.

Nikki,
I'm not sure what you're implying with the honey comment, knowing your sense of humour it's not what I think, but if it is then no I can't afford to put weight on !

[Nikkilovesdresses]

...and see if I could meet up with other members for afternoon tea.

And is there honey still for tea?

[Bobbi46]

Teresa,
next time you find a seat up unscrew the whole thing and take it with you that will solve the problem LOL!!

[Aunt Kelly]

One question I did wonder about is why was the seat left up in the cubicle when I entered ?

Funny you should ask - I had that same question when I used the ladies room last time I was out. My guess is that it has to do with "hovering".
BTW, your cup may not have been so quiet, but it sounds like it was still quite nice.

Hugs,


Kelly

[Helen_Highwater]

As I glanced around people did look but nothing out of the ordinary , my heart wasn't pounding , it did feel good just doing normal things dressed .

Teresa,

Funny how life's little surprises, and people, creep up on us. The fact your heart wasn't pounding is I feel a measure of the confidence you've now found. And yes I know what you mean about it feeling good just doing normal things. No guilt or shame. No skulking, just being you.

Later that evening I had to use the Ladies toilets as the disabled ones I use as a compromise were out of use.I did get into a conversation with a GG and a pregnant lady gave me a lovely smile.

I've had one or two of those smiles and I've come to the conclusion it's their way of saying, "Well done you. I know you're a man but I don't care".

[Teresa]

Helen,
Many thanks for your comments, I'm sure you're right with the knowing female smiles but what do I make of the full smiles from the bartender ?

Shelly I'm beginning to think you're right with the looks , even the previous time when I wore a strapless dress and walked from my room through the main hotel to get to the meeting room only raised some pleasant smiles. I must admit I'm never stuck for conversation no matter who it is with, but I guess you gathered that from the amount I have to say on the forum.

The question of the seat is still open as to cleaners entered when I was washing my hands, I'm not sure what they did clean but they both gave me lovely smiles.

Carole,
Many thanks for your kind comment , I consider it a compliment coming from you .

[Shelly Preston]

Teresa I think you just entered the world of normal. Yes people look but they always do when someone gets up, even if its only a quick glance.
I am sure all they saw was a lovely lady.

It can be a shock to the system when ladies start a conversation with you. Over time you will get used to this happening. I have never started one, but I have had more than I ever thought talk to me.

As for the toilet seat, cleaning was my first thought as cleaners normally leave the seat up.

[Nikki A.]

As someone else said welcome to the world of normal. As far as being overdressed, it doesn't seem to be too over the top. If you were in the dining room rather than the bar your outfit would have been quite appropriate.
As for myself, whenever I am deciding what to wear, I consider what I am doing, the weather and where I am going. Then I try to wear something that blends in but at the higher end of the scale. I want to be considered classy but not overdressed and definitely not trashy. Let them think "He may be a guy, but she does dress nice"

[carhill2mn]

I agree with Christina, 30 yrs. ago you would have blended in just fine. Now it is unusual to be nicely dressed when going to dinner, church or any place else. However, I would rather be slightly over-dressed than be dressed as the current majority.

Keep up the good work!

[Alice Torn]

Carhill. I Totally agree! We can be different in a classy way.

[GeorgeA]

I agree with Christina, 30 yrs. ago you would have blended in just fine. Now it is unusual to be nicely dressed when going to dinner, church or any place else. However, I would rather be slightly over-dressed than be dressed as the current majority.

Keep up the good work!

I wholeheartedly agree with your comments. That majority simply shows lack of respect for others.

[docrobbysherry]

On reading your post, Teresa, I imagined the look on any barkeep's face in the USA if they were asked for a "pot of tea"!

[Nikkilovesdresses]

The words form the last line of a poem, The Old Vicarage, Grantchester, by Rupert Brooke. He wrote it in Berlin, apparently homesick for Edwardian Britain. Your mention of afternoon tea resonates deeply with any Englishman, crossdressed or otherwise, who finds himself living abroad.

God save the Queen.

[Teresa]

Nikki,
Nice thought, thanks for that.

Oh I forgot to mention I do like crumpets with my tea in the winter months ! I wonder what thoughts you have on that ??

[Nikkilovesdresses]

I do like crumpets with my tea in the winter months !

We order them from https://www.britishcornershop.co.uk and they have ginger beer.

[Becky Blue]

Thanks for sharing that nice story Teresa, another person having an underwhelming brush with the the general population... next time you may well walk up to some of the people and start chatting. Also great to hear about another happy ladies room story!! Sighhh those GG's they ALWAYS leave the seat up lol

[Lana Mae]

It sounds like a most delightful time! I would of course substitute coffee for tea but that is hereditary as my great grand parents who came from your wonderful country drank coffee and not tea! (do not know why) I did see a GG one day in 3.5 to 4 inch going to Walmart! Seat up-I know in the military they require the seat up and say it is saluting! LOL Do not know if that applies to female military! Hugs Lana Mae

[Dana44]

When we were at the Restaurant in Vegas. I went the ladies restroom and there were many crossdressers in there and I was in line behind one lady. Had a nice talk with her and she was very nice. There was line behind us and I made sure that she got into a stall to do here stuff and she thanked me. not sure about the lid being up Never had seen one when i was in the ladies room. Perhaps another CD was in there and stood. LOL

[Julogden]

A great story and experience.

Reminds me of the time I showed up at a dance club in Chicago for their monthly drag night and it turned out that I had my dates mixed up. It was country 2-step dance night. The club was a mixed gay-straight club, and it turned out to be an interesting experience as well as a boost to my confidence.

[Shelly Preston]

Teresa, Being over dressed or not is a fine line.

Again this all depends on where you are going. Most will say you just need to keep it to a minimum when grocery shopping.
However I have seen women very well dressed popping in for a few items.

The biggest thing is still confidence no matter how you are dressed.

[leannejacobs]

Nice story, regards the toilet seat, I think it's an easy assumption that someone has had to use the toilet brush and as you do, or as I do, I always lift the seat so as not to drip water on it off the brush, sounds plausible.

[Helena]

Hi Teresa,

It was lovely to see you and the other ladies again, and like you I had to use the Ladies because my normal compromise, the Disabled, wasn't available.

On the lid question, i would plump for one of our members not bothering?

Confidence does go along way, and as you say with your life change coming everything will have to normalise. I know a couple of years ago, having to negotiate a crowded bar would have made me very anxious. Still have small wobbles but having been out and about in pubs, restaurants, cinema, theatres, shopping have that it is ok.

Having not seen the other bar customers i can't comment about being overdressed, but thought your outfit was just right, and as always very well put together. We should have offered to take your picture.

Nikki - Your quotation instantly made me think of the Peter Sellars piece "Balham, gateway to the south", which uses the line.