For several years now I have been in a DADT relationship with my wife about my cross dressing. It has not been the ideal situation. But since our work schedules allow me much free time to 'dress' , things have been relatively stable.
A few months ago I had to go some time without dressing. During this time I had a good bit of opportunity to assess just where I was in my desire for cross dressing. I bounced back and forth between missing it terribly and often thinking "this is rediculous....I should not be doing this."
Heeding all the advice to not purge, I simply packed everything and put it away. During a discussion with my wife at some point I had informed her that I had done so and this pleased her very much.
Sure enough the desire to dress returned. It was discovered by my wife and more anguish ensued. We try and talk about it but I just don't have the words to explain myself and/or comfort and alleviate her anxiety about all of this.
We have agreed we need to talk and try to get some resolve on this. In addition to counseling I have suggested maybe reading some material I have found online regarding this together. I am wary of presenting anything that is all pro cross dressing. I feel I should present material that is a little more neutral and maybe presents both sides of the situation.
I am asking if any of you have any online resources that I can use to present to my wife, and for myself for that matter, to aid in our efforts to come to some resolve.
Thanks,
Cindy