https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog...good-shame-bad
The link above relates to emotions that are quite familiar experience for many of us. I've often been counseled to let go of the feelings of guilt or shame that I've come to associate with crossdressing. I've even been advised that guilt can be good, and shame "bad".
Its easy to get lost in a tangential debate about definitions, for the purpose of this thread, I see guilt and shame as synonymous, at least when associated with acknowledged responsibility for behaviors and choices. But it seems from this article that one needs to differentiate between feeling guilty for ones behavior and feeling ashamed for being ..."fill in the blank". The former is a emotional response to acknowledging one's responsibility, the latter an ill defined blanket condemnation of self.
My question is whether such emotions can have some positive value in helping some people resist or overtime quell the desire to cross dress?
At least in the short to medium term, I suspect guilt can be an effective deterrent, and maybe it loses its potency over time. I'm also a bit concerned about the emotional and perhaps even physical consequences of carrying around a load of guilt and shame.
Any thoughts?
