I know that some of y'all are just totally out. And, that is certainly where I want to be someday. As I approach retirement, I've been less concerned about who knows about my gender play but, it's still not for common knowledge.
The list is like this:
-All of you
-About four of y'all know the male me
-Wife
-No family members except daughter
-Ex wife and whoever she blabbed it to
-One ex girlfriend and two divorce attorneys (and whoever they blabbed to)
-Possibly a neighbor or two
-One trusted friend at work
-Two psychotherapists
-One local makeup artist
-Half a dozen online friends

I have a BFF who's head would spin right off if he knew. But, I'm sure he'd glue it back on.