crossdressers ....are we bisexuals !!!!!!

[rian]

One night while I was having an honest conversation with my wife about crossdressers ( she already knows Im a crossdresser ) she raised the question whether Im a bisexual ? I have answered that Iam not ...yet in a sense it is true ..I am not attracted to males ....but thinking about it several times I loved the idea to share sexually with only a crossdresser like me ,,even though I had never done or will do it ...but sharing a special moment with only a crossdresser is a lovely thought ,,since both of us are attracted to the thought of a women make aroused sexually ...
Nonetheless when I'm in the mode of crossdresser I arouse to the idea of being felt like a women to be kissed kissed and love making as a woman but with another crossdresser and not a male .........how you feel girls ...are most of us the same ...and does this means Iam a bisexual or just a woman feels to be love sense attracted to others like her ?????

[Fiona123]

I identify as transgender. I am attracted sexually to females, not crossdressers. I do not see myself as bisexual. That's just me though.

[Krisi]

Being a crossdresser does not make you bi-sexual. Having sex with both men and women makes you bi-sexual. Actually, that's the definition of bi-sexual.

[Ressie]

I am. And if you've thought about it several times and liked the idea... you're bi-curious. Curious enough to try it still won't necessarily make you bi, but it could.

[pantyhoselvr kendra]

I am bisexual. My first few times that i slept with men i had to be dressed feminine. Lately i have been with a man undressed and completely naked which is something that i thought that i could never do but ended up being very erotic and fulfilling. Although the perfect man for me would be another crossdresser, maybe that will happen maybe not

[AlanaG]

I'm bisexual, but the guy has to be on the femme side, not a burly man. I've had one sexual encounter in my life with another male, only oral and I enjoyed it immensely. I would like to go further with the right person. It would be sex only, I can't see myself "falling in love" with a guy and wanting to live with them or marry them. I would love to find another crossdresser close by that I could be play mates with.

[Taylor Dame]

I am heterosexual and have no desire to be with a man. I love my wife and she is my best friend. She knows I dress, but prefers not to see it. I do wish she would accept this side of me. I have thought it would be great to know another crossdresser with whom I could go shopping or out for coffee and a meal.

[Sarah Doepner]

First the question you pose is one about the community and there isn't a single answer that would be right for a group as varied as this one. Broad brush explanations tend to cover a lot of territory but don't explain much. Just reading the responses here illustrates how different each of our journeys has been.

For me? I have no idea, but like so many others I've had the fantasies that have never faced the possible test of reality. There have been bi-curious moments and nearly all of them have come when I was alone. Maybe some day the curiosity and the test of reality will happen at the same time and place and I'll find out, or I'll leave it as a pleasant fantasy that doesn't harm anyone or complicate my life.

[Venessa_48]

I'm straight haven't ever been attracted to men at all, I love women!!

[Stephanie Nicole]

No I don't consider myself bisexual, I love women. I am in a relationship with a very great girlfriend and cannot fathom the idea of being with another man, whether that man is a crossdresser or not.

[Tracy Irving]

Krisi,
I think you only need to be sexual attracted to men and women to be considered bisexual. Either way, you are correct regarding the lack of relationship between clothing and bisexuality. Not all bisexuals are crossdressers either.

[Jean 103]

Ressie is right. I'm bi . Right now it's just a fantasy, the real world is a bit of a different thing.

[Nikki A.]

I'm not attracted to men only to women. However, would I consider another CD, probably not. I guess though I might consider a fling just to see what it would feel like being treated as the woman in bed at least once (more by a woman though) . So maybe I'm bi-curious, or a lesbian

[DIANEF]

The thought of doing anything squidgy with another male, whether he, I or both were dressed does nothing at all for me.

[Devi SM]

I'm bisexual.
Initially for my mind and memories I was attracted to have sex with men like a woman, I mean bottom but I wasn't attracted to look for men on the daily life just sexually.
So I must confess that my first homosexual experience with a man was in my thirties. Previously I play with toys.
I didn't feel good being with a man a lot of guilty, shame and remorse but I still looking to have sex again.
At the same time the crossdressing began but just panties, in a daily basis.
I was very promiscuous so I can tell that I have a lot of experience with men.
Crossdressing in me was taking more and more control.
It's just in the last 5 years, since I could release myself of religious belief including the shame, guilty and fear feelings, that I had more "freedom" to think about it and analyze it.
Everytime the crossdressing was more intense and the desire for sex with men was less powerful.
At the beginning in this site I couldn't understand how men that enjoy feeling, dressing as a woman couldn't have the desire to be with a man.
At the same time, in chats room like Kik, I've talked with so many crossdressers and probably jyst there most of them are looking to have sex with men but so many others look for sex just with other crossdressers.
I learn that the umbrella under crossdressers is so big.
After saying all the truth about my cding and bisexuality to my wife, being more than 6 months in gender therapy, reading so far 6 books about trasgenders, I found the roots of my croosdressing in my childhood and the homosexuality, (trying to explain or define the strong homosexuality) was a strong expression of my feminity and has dimished so much that even now still being aroused but sexual images in porn movies, I'm not longer interested in homosexual sex like I did so much, more in sex with others crossdressers but very femine and sexy, thought this interest is not enough powerful to cheat again on my wife since, now, she knows everything, is not condemning but supportive, I have not feelings of guilty and finally our sex has everything that can satisfy me.
So the evolution of my sexuality is very broad to keep thinking I'm bisexual.
I have not regrets. I really enjoyed sex with men but now I know what the reasons took me to do it.

About you? probably curious bisexual. It's hard to say since our world of crossdressing is so broad and weird. Who can explain our feeling and desires to be seen, dress, feel, to be seduce, to be used, to be abused?

[Aunt Kelly]

You can be bisexual and not a crossdresser.
You can be a crossdresser and not bisexual.
You can be both.
You can fantasize about being one or the other.
You can stop worrying about labels and just be what it feels right to be.

[Sage Rose]

For me, I do identify as Bisexual, even though I have never slept with a man before. My crossdressing is not dependent on my feeling sexual attracation towards men and women. My bisexuality isn't conditional upon being dressed. Everyone is different though, so I would examine as many possible anges on this for yourself and do some serious thinking and honest internal conversation with yourself.

I struggled for a while if I were straight, gay, trans, then came to understand that I am a Bisexual who is also a Crossdresser.

<3 Sage <3

[Stephanie47]

Generally, people who act out their fantasies are disappointed. I have absolutely no interest in the company of men. I suppose a person who is not a cross dresser would be perplexed as to why a man would emulate a woman and not be sexually interested in being in a sexual relationship with a man. I really cannot answer the question, but, it is a logical question to be asked.

[Dana44]

I have never felt shame being with a man. I am Bi. Sex is good with a male or female. Love females though. Men are just looking for sex and when I was with some gay guys they thought I was pretty manly. LOL I was girlfriend to a married guy and gave him his fantasies and what his wife could not.give him. That was nice and well I like men and love women.

[Mark B]

Definitely not Bi, in fact, I am just a bit homophobic which really confuses my wife. She's bi and doesn't see a problems with it, I however, have a BIG problem with it. The thought gives me the hebegebes....

[Teresa]

Rian,
Totally different things, I have no interest in men at all in an intimate way, it doesn't mean I don't get on with them but then I get on with most people no matter what gender. I still favour women and still wish to share my CDing with one. I don't mind meeting other CDers socially but it's not sexually stimulating .

[Robertacd]

I have no sexual attraction to men what so ever. Except for when I was younger I did have an occasional masturbatory fantasy about men, but it was centered around what it would be like being that girl in the porno and experiencing sex as a woman,.

[Jenny22]

As I aged and dressed more frequently in more sensual and sexy clothing, I became mentally Bi-sexual, as in fantasy thinking. What would it be like to be a woman with a man, to feel and do those things with a man that a woman might naturally do, sexually. I know I'm not the only TG or CD that feels this way, and it amazes me! One day under the right circumstances and with the right person, male or CD, who knows what might occur.

[kimdl93]

For the longest time, I accepted the then widely held notion that associated CDing with homosexuality, and I made assumption that I must be gay or bi because I liked to present myself as a woman. Toyed with the idea but, although I do find the fantasy of m/m erotic, in the final analysis, I don't find men sexually attractive. Ive tried....it just wasn't there. I have a lot of gay friends, but thats all...and I guess its too bad, because I could have a much more active social life if I could swing that way.

[Viggy]

No, I'm not bisexual, that's sure. As I begann with CD I only couldn't imagine to have sex with male. But now after two years CD, my aversion to males got growing, there's a proper disgust to males.