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    crossdressers ....are we bisexuals !!!!!!

    One night while I was having an honest conversation with my wife about crossdressers ( she already knows Im a crossdresser ) she raised the question whether Im a bisexual ? I have answered that Iam not ...yet in a sense it is true ..I am not attracted to males ....but thinking about it several times I loved the idea to share sexually with only a crossdresser like me ,,even though I had never done or will do it ...but sharing a special moment with only a crossdresser is a lovely thought ,,since both of us are attracted to the thought of a women make aroused sexually ...
    Nonetheless when I'm in the mode of crossdresser I arouse to the idea of being felt like a women to be kissed kissed and love making as a woman but with another crossdresser and not a male .........how you feel girls ...are most of us the same ...and does this means Iam a bisexual or just a woman feels to be love sense attracted to others like her ?????
    Cross-dressing is a cross between woman's soul and man's heart.....

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    I identify as transgender. I am attracted sexually to females, not crossdressers. I do not see myself as bisexual. That's just me though.

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    No I don't consider myself bisexual, I love women. I am in a relationship with a very great girlfriend and cannot fathom the idea of being with another man, whether that man is a crossdresser or not.

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    Being a crossdresser does not make you bi-sexual. Having sex with both men and women makes you bi-sexual. Actually, that's the definition of bi-sexual.

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    Krisi,
    I think you only need to be sexual attracted to men and women to be considered bisexual. Either way, you are correct regarding the lack of relationship between clothing and bisexuality. Not all bisexuals are crossdressers either.

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    I am. And if you've thought about it several times and liked the idea... you're bi-curious. Curious enough to try it still won't necessarily make you bi, but it could.
    "You're the only one to see the changes you take yourself through", Stevie Wonder

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    Ressie is right. I'm bi . Right now it's just a fantasy, the real world is a bit of a different thing.

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    I'm not attracted to men only to women. However, would I consider another CD, probably not. I guess though I might consider a fling just to see what it would feel like being treated as the woman in bed at least once (more by a woman though) . So maybe I'm bi-curious, or a lesbian

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    The thought of doing anything squidgy with another male, whether he, I or both were dressed does nothing at all for me.
    Here today, gone tomorrow....

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    I'm bisexual.
    Initially for my mind and memories I was attracted to have sex with men like a woman, I mean bottom but I wasn't attracted to look for men on the daily life just sexually.
    So I must confess that my first homosexual experience with a man was in my thirties. Previously I play with toys.
    I didn't feel good being with a man a lot of guilty, shame and remorse but I still looking to have sex again.
    At the same time the crossdressing began but just panties, in a daily basis.
    I was very promiscuous so I can tell that I have a lot of experience with men.
    Crossdressing in me was taking more and more control.
    It's just in the last 5 years, since I could release myself of religious belief including the shame, guilty and fear feelings, that I had more "freedom" to think about it and analyze it.
    Everytime the crossdressing was more intense and the desire for sex with men was less powerful.
    At the beginning in this site I couldn't understand how men that enjoy feeling, dressing as a woman couldn't have the desire to be with a man.
    At the same time, in chats room like Kik, I've talked with so many crossdressers and probably jyst there most of them are looking to have sex with men but so many others look for sex just with other crossdressers.
    I learn that the umbrella under crossdressers is so big.
    After saying all the truth about my cding and bisexuality to my wife, being more than 6 months in gender therapy, reading so far 6 books about trasgenders, I found the roots of my croosdressing in my childhood and the homosexuality, (trying to explain or define the strong homosexuality) was a strong expression of my feminity and has dimished so much that even now still being aroused but sexual images in porn movies, I'm not longer interested in homosexual sex like I did so much, more in sex with others crossdressers but very femine and sexy, thought this interest is not enough powerful to cheat again on my wife since, now, she knows everything, is not condemning but supportive, I have not feelings of guilty and finally our sex has everything that can satisfy me.
    So the evolution of my sexuality is very broad to keep thinking I'm bisexual.
    I have not regrets. I really enjoyed sex with men but now I know what the reasons took me to do it.

    About you? probably curious bisexual. It's hard to say since our world of crossdressing is so broad and weird. Who can explain our feeling and desires to be seen, dress, feel, to be seduce, to be used, to be abused?
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    You can be bisexual and not a crossdresser.
    You can be a crossdresser and not bisexual.
    You can be both.
    You can fantasize about being one or the other.
    You can stop worrying about labels and just be what it feels right to be.

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    For me, I do identify as Bisexual, even though I have never slept with a man before. My crossdressing is not dependent on my feeling sexual attracation towards men and women. My bisexuality isn't conditional upon being dressed. Everyone is different though, so I would examine as many possible anges on this for yourself and do some serious thinking and honest internal conversation with yourself.

    I struggled for a while if I were straight, gay, trans, then came to understand that I am a Bisexual who is also a Crossdresser.

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    Generally, people who act out their fantasies are disappointed. I have absolutely no interest in the company of men. I suppose a person who is not a cross dresser would be perplexed as to why a man would emulate a woman and not be sexually interested in being in a sexual relationship with a man. I really cannot answer the question, but, it is a logical question to be asked.

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    I have never felt shame being with a man. I am Bi. Sex is good with a male or female. Love females though. Men are just looking for sex and when I was with some gay guys they thought I was pretty manly. LOL I was girlfriend to a married guy and gave him his fantasies and what his wife could not.give him. That was nice and well I like men and love women.
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    Rian,
    Totally different things, I have no interest in men at all in an intimate way, it doesn't mean I don't get on with them but then I get on with most people no matter what gender. I still favour women and still wish to share my CDing with one. I don't mind meeting other CDers socially but it's not sexually stimulating .

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    I have no sexual attraction to men what so ever. Except for when I was younger I did have an occasional masturbatory fantasy about men, but it was centered around what it would be like being that girl in the porno and experiencing sex as a woman,.

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    As I aged and dressed more frequently in more sensual and sexy clothing, I became mentally Bi-sexual, as in fantasy thinking. What would it be like to be a woman with a man, to feel and do those things with a man that a woman might naturally do, sexually. I know I'm not the only TG or CD that feels this way, and it amazes me! One day under the right circumstances and with the right person, male or CD, who knows what might occur.

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    For the longest time, I accepted the then widely held notion that associated CDing with homosexuality, and I made assumption that I must be gay or bi because I liked to present myself as a woman. Toyed with the idea but, although I do find the fantasy of m/m erotic, in the final analysis, I don't find men sexually attractive. Ive tried....it just wasn't there. I have a lot of gay friends, but thats all...and I guess its too bad, because I could have a much more active social life if I could swing that way.

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    As a Crossdresser! my sexuality and preference is much the same as the type of dog and cat which I have! ( I also love my fish! )

    It matters in No way!
    STOP, Well I just dance the way I feel
    Stop breathing imagine none of this is real

    Well I just dance the way I feel
    Well I just dance the way I feel
    Well I just dance the way I feel
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    rian just because a guy wears womens clothes on occasion does not make him bi sexual or gay .
    They can be either but the CDing does not have anything to do with it.
    I think you are assuming too much by thinking we all all pretty much alike and just have a fantasy about being with a man which is normal for a lot of CDs.
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    Exclamation Parts is parts!

    Fantasy is one thing and reality another. When I first began dressing at age 50+, I was sure I had turned gay!
    What with all my fantasies of imagining being a woman with a man. Apparently, many dressers succumb to that fantasy!

    Plus, since I began going out dressed, I've met a few very fem dressers I was attracted to. But, I never moved ahead. Even if they seemed interested. Why?

    Because parts is parts! And, there's nothing attractive about male parts to me.

    If u have fantasies about being with males or CD's yet r attracted to females, u could be straight or bi.

    If u like women but experiment with sex with males or CD's, u could be straight or bi.

    But, the way I see it, if u like sex with males and/or CD's, u r gay or bi.
    Because, parts is parts!
    U can't keep doing the same things over and over and expect to enjoy life to the max. When u try new things, even if they r out of your comfort zone, u may experience new excitement and growth that u never expected.

    Challenge yourself and pursue your passions! When your life clock runs out, you'll have few or NO REGRETS!

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    In all of my reading I have not seen any evidence for correlation between cross dressing and sexual preference. A common quote in books and articles about cross dressing is that most cross dressers are heterosexual. But there are many who gay or bi- also. You may be just enjoying a sexual fantasy about being with a cross dresser. Or you may be attracted to the idea of sharing companionship with another cross dresser. I notice your geographic location may make it impossible to find groups of cross dressers with whom you can share your feelings and issues. If you could it might help you define better your boundaries and desires.

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    For me, sex is about having something special with a person.
    So far to date, those people I've had special connections to have been female.
    I did have a strong connection to a CD, she was fun, witty and if the circumstances been right, well, I would have had sex with a woman who had a mans body.
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    Fantasy is perfect. Reality isn't. I wouldn't claim my preferences based on fantasy.
    I don't dress up because I want to be a woman, I dress up to make me happy.

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    I think the sexuality of the crossdresser is individual to the crossdresser themselves...

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