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    Danielle,
    No not one, not during driving or at the meetings .

    Our new hotel gives us the chance to mix more freely with the general public, and so far not a single problem . Even going to breakfast in a crowded dining room .

    Marie-Jo,
    I'm glad you added that last comment, meeting other CDers is confidence building, and it does feel very natural .

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    Went to First Event, a conference for trans in the Boston area, a couple of years ago. Met a few people in sessions. No follow up though.

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    Meetings

    Have you met with another cd? Yes several

    Where did you go?
    1. Several times to Atlanta GA,
    2. 4 time to a local Cafe (In drab),
    3. Twice to the home of a member here.

    What did you do?
    1. a lot - Dinner, a show, Shopping, group discussions etc.
    2. went and talked.
    3. Talked on phone, went and dressed out, did a small photo shoot.

    How did you stay safe, (pre-screen the other person)?
    1. talked on phone to some of the members
    2. Text messages to some members
    3. Text and talked.

    Did you meet enfem or guy mode?
    1, both
    2. drab only
    3. Drab
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    Yes, first time, I was in drab, she all femme. We had coffee. Second time, I was femme, too. She insisted i go with her to a supermarket. We did. All was fine. Third time, dinner, and was with Doc Sherry and her friend, Cindi. Fourth time, dinner, just the two of us. The restaurant was packed. A family of 4 (2 small sons) were at a table immediately next to us. No disparaging looks or remarks from them, though the boys did look at us, often.
    That wonderful person was Loren Richards, my mentor, my encourager, my friend. I met her through this forum. She gave her general location, which was close mine, in her profile so that every post she made had her location, too.

    I know its a very personal decision to give your location, general or specific, or not. I respect that. But, if you ever want to make and meet sister friends in your area, they have to know your general or specific whereabouts. But do it only if YOU want to, and update your profile.

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    Danielle_cder;

    Have you met with another cd?
    Yes. Many others over the years.

    Where did you go?
    The very first time I met with a group, all in drab mode, to do a tour. It was a few days later I dressed to join them for an event back in my early days going to DLV. Since then I've met with others either at meetings or other gatherings or individually. When it's a first meeting with a stranger who I don't know it's usually to invite them to join in our Tri-Ess group. I try to make sure we meet at a public place during normal hours. I always do this meeting drab, but bring along photos to make sure they know I haven't trolled them. It's important they can begin to trust me that when we discuss crossdressing, I know what they are feeling.

    At DLV I've met a lot of wonderful people at places that range from mini-golf to high end restaurants, dive bars to theaters, casinos to shopping malls.

    What did you do?
    Talk. We try to learn what we share in common and then discover if there are other shared interests. Other than that, we eat, enjoy music, gamble, shop, tell stories, normal friend stuff.

    How did you stay safe, (pre screen the other person)?
    Pick a public place during normal hours. Often I have someone else along. Most of my initial contacts these days are with others who have already reached out to our group, so some of the screening has been done. If you go to an event or support group meeting of some sort most of that has been worked out over the years to make sure they can be successful.

    Did you meet enfem or guy mode?
    Sometimes en femme, sometimes in guy mode. It depends on the situation.

    Has anyone had a bad experience?
    Not doing this and doing it consistently and carefully. Having an exit strategy should always be in your mind when meeting with someone you've encountered over the internet, but if it's through a well established site like this, you can do a lot of evaluation before you ever meet. I probably have met at least a dozen girls from here in person, and some have become very good friends over the years. I've had bad experiences, but never from this kind of activity. Your mileage may vary, so think things through.
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    I have only met once with another CDer, and he was married, and i am single. Both of us met in guy mode. We just talked some. At a McDonalds. Never met anyone else

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    Hell-o Danielle,
    I've had the pleasure to meet with 15 or 16 members
    of this site, and I've had phone conversations with a
    couple others.
    I think getting to "know" someone before meeting can
    be done by reading their posts here.
    PM's can lead to emails, and possibly even an exchange
    of phone numbers if a meeting is to happen.
    A few of my meetings were just a brief introduction at
    an event in Sacramento, but the majority were planned
    meetings where we got together for a little shopping, or
    a few hours at the aquarium, followed by lunch or dinner.
    My SO and I have even hosted a dinner party at our home
    with several site members, and wives attending
    (most of them spent the night!) Talk about a fun!
    All of my meetings were while I was dressed enfemme,
    but everyone that spent the night after the dinner party
    got to meet me in guy mode the following morning.
    Much Love,
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    Yes I have meet anther TS and we meet at the hotel and went to a Cajun place here for lunch. I was in guy mode and she was dressed very casual. But we meet and I am dressed also. at a town that is a about two hours away.
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    I went to a local swingers club in Toronto called M4 that has a TG/CD night. Had a wonderful time. Met quite a few CD's and chatted like long lost friends. Will be going again this fall once I've shed my summer hair!

    I would love to meet more CD's in my town but it is difficult.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Danielle_cder View Post
    Has anyone had a bad experience?
    I don't know if this qualifies... but I went to a TG group meeting in Memphis a few months ago. Though most of the girls were welcoming, one insisted on belittling theists and those not agreeing with her politics. Oh, and kept on laughing when I said I was a CD, mentioning three or four times that night, "You'll understand more when you transition." The rest of the ladies were nice, helpful, and enjoyable to talk to. One individual didn't ruin the night, more of an annoyance.
    Life is too short to be boring.

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    Yes to all of the above to dinner and night clubs. With members of this forum and have spent to night at one members home. So I would not have to drive home late, after drinking and over 100 mile to home.

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    I have met with a couple of cd girls. Both times they were in drab. The meetings were 4-5 hours, we went shopping and had a meal. Of course, the best part is the conversation, sharing notes and realizing that we have done a lot of the same things in the past.

    I think the 'in drab' meeting is the safest way to get to know someone, and then you came decide if you want to meet them en femme. One of the girls I met this way is now my closest cd friend and we go out en femme regularly.

    I also go to a cd group meeting at a local bar (Just a group of girls getting together for the sake of getting together. It's organized by our local cd boutique). So, I invited a girl I met online to join us for that event. Perfectly safe for me (since we were in a large group), but quite nerve racking for the new girl (though she had been out many times before, just not to this type of event).

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    Hi Danielle
    I've only met one other CD but it really was a wonderful experience. It truly is amazing to finally sit and talk to somebody like yourself after being alone for so long. We met at a meet up at a LGBT center here in New Jersey so it was a very comfortable atmosphere. I definitely recommend it if you get the opportunity.

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    Well I wish one day I can find a crossdresser like me at the area where I'm living .....one day

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    Well, i have never met another Cd, unfortunately. I wish i had more courage to meet someone. But, in my opinion, you need to feel comfortable, so, no rush

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