I have known I was different for many years. I am lucky and fortunate that I have a sincere supportive wife, and I am grateful beyond all belief for her. I had a fantastic Nickie weekend as some of you have seen in the pictures forum. Unfortunately today I am having a tough time coming out of it. I did not want to go back to being Nick I wanted in my heart of hearts to stay Nickie. Most days I wake up I don't look in the mirror because the first thing I see is my huge Adams apple staring back at me. Given the honest choice between a skirt and stockings and heels, or jeans and sneakers I am going with the first every single time. I used to think it was just a fetish, but truthfully, today hurts, as does pretty much every other day I go back to being Nick after being Nickie. I have never felt transitioning was right for me, because quite frankly I love to go outside and turn a wrench, or rebuild a boat, or go fishing, not to mention the absolute wake of destruction in my path as well. I have 4 young children I couldn't do that to, nor am I willing to lose my wife of over a decade, and she has made it clear she will always be my best friend, but if it were to proceed any further it ends in divorce. So now I feel lost not myself and trapped, I just want my cake and to eat it too. I don't want to go back to being Nick, but I can't stay as Nickie.
What is your coping mechanism, Is it Ben and Jerry's, movies, work, none of it seems to be working today.