In looking at other posts, I have been thinking about the whole purging issue. Isn't purging mainly about two issues, self acceptance, or the acceptance of others. Now there is a lot of work in getting others to accept us. Who knows if anything will change in this area which depends so much on the other person. Yet there is much that can be done in self acceptance. Maybe some of our problems with others is a result of us not accepting ourselves. Another thread gets into how to accept yourself, but I have been thinking where does purging and the other abuses fit into the over all picture. Why do we punish ourselves with purging and beating on ourselves when it rarely, to never changes anything. I say to those of us that still have times of self condemnation, we need to learn from the following. "We need to change the things that we can and accept the things that we can't, and have the wisdom to know and understand what the difference is." This site has been an incredible help to me and from reading many threads it has been to others also. In the end it is still our brain that has to wrap around this simple truth, there are some things that are beyond us and our control. As my mother used to say, "can a leopard change its spots".