I've read a lot of posts that describe a confused beginning to crossdressing complete with denial and self doubt. Then a full self acceptance, then the painful disclosure to spouse hoping that all the deceit and the gender exploring itself will be forgiven and accepted. And the whole time you tell yourself that you have no desire to ever transition. In a situation of DADT you finally have it all although, it's not perfect. But, such is life.
So, I've just described my personal situation. But, there's something else going on. The thought of hormonal adjustments to feminize are very strong. There's something going on that I have a desire to naturally enlarge my breasts and thighs to create a more predominately female body image. Who knows? If I were single and retired, would I go down this path? Would a gender therapist pick-up on my true view of myself is that of both genders? Or, am I a person that remains portraying their birth gender due to socially contrived obstacles?