My wife and I have had some issues lately with my clothes and my dressing. For those of you that have followed me or responded you'll know what I'm talking about. My wife and I talked about my clothes and my dressing. At first she was giving me an ultimatum. The clothes needed to go or else we were going to make some changes to our relationship. I really had to do some thinking as to what I was going to do. My thoughts were I had lived 41 of 44 years with i being a secret and she was the only one that knew. I thought to myself for a while and told her that I was going to get rid of the clothes and that I've kept it a secret for that long I can keep it a secret again and to save our relationship I was willing to do so. As I told her she responded by saying and explaining that she knows that it's a piece of me and that I can't just get rid of it. She understands that. As she explained it to me and now it makes complete sense was it goes along with some of her other things I know about her. She has a really hard time watching news because of all the bad. She has a hard time watching horror movies because of the violence and anything with a woman being abused. THose things she can't handle. So she said when it comes to my dressing that she doesn't want to or can see it. Not that they're in the same category but she just can't handle it. She also said she was afraid that I was taking a risk at my health and then putting her health at risk too. I said no way and whatever preconceptions you have regarding that though (and I didn't bother to ask) are wrong. She said what put her over the edge was when she went into the closet and moved some of my dress shirts around and found a lot more women's clothes than what she expected or could imagine. She knew that I had clothes in the closet and that I have a plastic bin that I kept them in. Well I was storing more clothes than could fit into the bin but they were all covered up by my guy clothes.
After we spoke which was productive, she said and we both agreed that I could keep clothes in the bin but no more. She said I had way too many but also realized that it was a part of me. So I agreed to cut back on the clothes and get rid of a lot but I'd keep it in the bin only. So that's what I'm going to be doing.
On the flip side I still am going to proceed with caution. I really am going to cut back to the bin but also still go back into the "closet". I'm glad we can come to a compromise with this and I don't have to completely get rid of it all.
Nikki