Well ladies, had the talk this morning which lasted hours & hours.
And I don't think it's over yet.
I told her exactly what was on my mind and what I wanted - selfish me.
I'm sorry for wearing your clothes it won't happen ever again.
I want to wear my own clothes, get a wig, wear make-up and I want to get heels.
I was asked did I want to become a woman - No.
She said I have given her this burden to her & her only to keep secret from the kids & family - not fair.
I was asked if I had to choose would I choose "lady clothes" & "prancing about the house in them for an hour or so every week" over the love of my kids & youngest child especially - I would choose my kids.
I told her I regretted telling her anything about this in the first place - mature!
Honesty is the best policy....hmmmm?
I had all my life to sort this out (my cd-ing) but I chose to pack it all up over the years & keep it in storage in a freight train to wait for the right moment to run her over with it....in her words more or less.
I need to take a step outside of myself and look at what I'm doing....I need to sort out my mental health issues...I may need to go on medication...all her words.
I'm not in touch with my feminine side as if I was I would be more nurturing...and being in touch with your feminine side is not just about wearing women's clothes.
She's not willing to accept this s**t from me anymore. Not what she signed up for.
Was told just because I told her all of this does not give me the right to go out & buy heels or wig or dresses.
Separation was mentioned but she mainly wants me to work on myself and my issues of selfishness, lying, mental health, etc etc.
She probably right though in some aspects as life lately has been pretty mundane, monotonous and overall s**t.
I've probably let this get in the way of everything else.
So, overall I was given plenty of food for thought - I just have to figure out how hungry I am.
At least I didn't get hit !
I probably shouldn't even be relaying this on the forum as she has been scouring the internet in relation to cd-ing.
She has told me that if I wanted validation for what I'm doing to go onto any CD forum/website & I will be told I'm not doing anyone any harm by fellow cd-ers but she could find little or nothing from wives of cd-ers who can't or won't cope with it.
So it's out there now....something to be sorted.