My wife was unaccepting in the recent past, but has slowly given in and allowed me some girly stuff.
The other day she came to me and said she wanted to talk, of course one's head goes in all different directions when you hear that! We sat down and asked me if I could do better with putting away and hiding my small collection of girly stuff and high heels. She was concerned because a friend that was visiting stepped in to my office to toss some thing in the garbage, (pretty much my personal space), and my wife was not sure how "clean" it was. (It is not unusual to find my high heels on the floor or some skimpy undies hanging on the chair!) I mentioned putting things in the dresser in our bedroom, but she was not happy with that as someone could take a look. I mentioned I could add a lock to a cabinet in my home office, and put my stuff in there. She thought that was a great idea. I added the lock, and showed her where the key was so she could toss my stuff in the cabinet if I forgot. She was very happy with the solution. It is not high security, but it should keep the casual visitor from finding my stash!
One more step in the right direction!