Light confrontation today

[Tracii G]

I stopped by a place to eat after doing some shopping today and ran into a lady not so happy with the way I was dressed.
The hostess was getting ready to take me to my seat when the guy and his wife and daughter came in.
I heard her as the hostess was taking me to my seat.
Her voiced carried like a coyote howl "OMG what the hell is that a girly man?"
The hostess seated them in the booth right next to me so I had to listen to her bitching all thru dinner.
Anyway I got up to get my salad and she gave me the "look" you know the one the up and down look.
Things went OK and the talk was not so much about eating dinner next to a tranny but other stuff she was bitching about.
I went back to get some fruit and she went out of her way to follow me.
She goes around me and on to the bathroom so I thought OK I was wrong she just has to pee.
Well no she turns around and says what are you a woman a fag or what?
I said excuse me Miss bad manners whats your problem?
An older lady was getting some salad and she looked over and scowled at the lady and said OMG you are so rude.
The bitch lady just stands there so I asked is that all?
She says I guess so faggot. I said OK have a nice day.
Right as the were leaving the place was getting crowded she looks into my booth and says bye girly man.
I smiled and said good bye but FYI if you are going to wear sweat pants at least wear some SPANX please.
Her mouth dropped open and she stood there.Her husband said come on lets go you are embarrassing me.

[AngieStone]

Tracii that is horrible that someone would act like that. Thank goodness you where the bigger person. I applaud you for how you handled the situation and not kicking her worthless butt. I like that the other woman at the salad bar spoke up as well.

[foxy bartender]

You’re kinda bad ass!
I may have had an anxiety attack, but you handled yourself like a boss
So sorry that happened, but good for you for sticking up for yourself
Thank you for sharing this

[Elizabeth G]

Well done Tracii. You handled yourself well and put her in her place without stooping to her level. I can only hope I am up to the task equivalently if I'm ever in a similar situation.

[Jodie_Lynn]

Kudos to Tracii! You kept your cool and the moral high ground and still zinged her!
Additional kudos to the bystander who let the witch know she was out of line.

But from what you related about her bitchin about random other topics, it sounds like she is just a miserable person who can't see the good, only the negative.

[Michelle_G]

What a Biatch! Unhappy with everything in life I'm sure. Poor husband, I bet he can never please her.

[Tracii G]

She has an ugly heart more than likely.

[Julie Slowinski]

Great story. Perfect example of how to respond - 1000% confidence without causing a scene. I know I would have had a hard time holding it together on both counts. I’m pretty sure that transfolk are not the only people subject to her scorn.

[Rayleen]

Tracii, you handle very well, she wanted you to start a fight probably not because of you, but some other problem. She decided to take it on you. Sorry it ruined you restaurent meal.

[giuseppina]

I wonder if her husband read her the Riot Act. I suppose we'll never know.

This kind of nonsense is unhealthy for the daughter. Some child protection agencies have deemed it child abuse.

[Littleg2]

Tracii G,
I know I only know you from these boards, but I would expect nothing less from you. Courteous with a bit of sass. How horrible for someone to act that way. Judging from her hubbys remark, the woman seems incorrigible, and the world could do with less like her. Super nice of the older lady to have your back, so to speak. And how very thoughtful of you to offer some fashion advice to her after her being so snarky and rude to you.

[docrobbysherry]

Perfect, Tracii! And, is exactly why I try not to frequent vanilla venues when dressed!

I have neither your fortitude or resilience! Bravo!

[Kelly DeWinter]

Tracci;

I am so sorry you had to go through that, I hope that I would be able to have the poise and manners that you showed in a difficult situation. Bravo.

As far as the husband is concerned, I pity him for being married to someone who shows less manners than a 10 year old.

[DaisyLawrence]

The Spanx bit - priceless! Thank you Traci for brightening my morning.

[Robin-in-TX]

Way to go. I wish I had your bravery; she demonstrated all the reasons I will not go out.

[Pat]

And Tracii demonstrated all the reasons you should. Good show.

[Ariana225]

Way to go Tracii!! You handled the situation like a pro. Just think, you had to deal with her for a meal, that husband has to deal with her a lot longer lol

[Linda P.]

Tracii,
I try to imagine myself in that situation and how I would react. I don't think I could have kept my cool the way you did.

[Jodie_Lynn]

To all the gurls who say "This is why I don't go out" : If you don't spread your wings, you'll never be able to fly!

In my voyages out, the worst I have encountered (so far), is the stink eye, from one individual, which I returned with a smile. She didn't know how to react to that, so I count it as a win.

What I'm saying is: Don't deny yourself because of fear. There is a whole, wonderful world out there... Be yourself, be proud, be adventurous!

“I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain.”

- Frank Herbert, Dune

[Jean 103]

Very well done.

I think I would have gone off on her. Which would have been the wrong way to handle it, stopping to her level.

[Teresa]

Tracii,
I'm not sure what I would say to her, but obviously she had a problem before she saw you and was looking to let rip at someone and you were in the firing line .

The only occasion I have had some reaction was when an old lady stopped when I was dressed having breakfast , she propped herself on her walking stick , looked me up and down but said nothing and walked off. I did remark to the others at my table that I now know what a full body scan feels like !

[Robin777]

Traci, You took the high road when she went after you. I don't know what I would have done if I was in your shoes. I do like what you said to her. It was the perfect remark for someone so intolerant. I doubt if her husband read her the riot act. He probably has given up trying to get her to keep her mouth shut.

[suzanne]

Great job on keeping your composure. The Spanx comment was pure genius. I'm afraid I don't think that fast. Nice bonus to get support from her own husband, too.

[Tracii G]

The SPANX comment was well deserved because wearing sweat pants and having saddlebag hips is not a good look for anyone.
I did hit below the belt a bit but the delivery was comical to say the least.
Imagine a gay man dressed as a woman looking at a woman and telling her her ass is flabby and getting away with it and there were people within just feet all looking at her ass and thinking "Oh my that lady does need SPANX bad". Good call gay guy dressed as a woman.

[Kayliedaskope]

There is no 'like' button, but this should do just as well.