Looking vs Feeling

[Becky Blue]

I was having a very interesting discussion today with my friend Nikki Windsor. Whilst we have many things in common, we also have some big differences when it comes to dressing. Please excuse my use of the first person.

Nikki is an all or nothing Girl, when she dresses, she goes full on and spends a lot of time and care to perfect every aspect of her look. She loves makeup specially her eyes. Nikki needs to look as much like a woman as possible in order to feel like a woman and is always glamorous and dressed to perfection.

Becky is very comfortable with some very basic makeup (or none at all) and a very casual fem look. She can feel very much like a women without needing to dress as one, as she feels that GG's often go without makeup, so she really likes to feel that she is just doing what a GG does most of the time, even if this means avoiding mirrors. Of course like any GG, she loves getting all glammed up for an outing or a special occasion.

So for example Becky will use any opportunity to sleep enfemm, she loves the feeling of lying in the dark or waking up in a soft nightie. Nikki will not sleep enfemm as she can't sleep in makeup.

So Girls are you a Nikki or a Becky?

[nikkiwindsor]

Yes, I'm a Nikki and proud of it!!

[Elizabeth G]

Hi Becky,

I'm one of those that falls somewhere in between. I underdress daily to maintain my sanity but when I have the opportunity to fully dress them it's all or nothing. Pads, forms, corset, full makeup,wig, nails - the whole nine yards.

Elizabeth

[sometimes_miss]

I'm not exactly sure. I think that we all will do whatever it takes, to, in our own minds, tick off the box that indicates 'female' when it comes to declaring what we are. That may also change from day to day; one day maybe it includes shaving everything. Another, just wearing panties and a bra under whatever outer clothes will be adequate. For while I don't wear make up because I can't see it, I DO spend a lot of time getting my manicure just right, with rings, bracelets, and a watch only appropriate for a girl. As always, the devil is in the details.

[Esther Latour]

I must go with Becky. I sleep in a nightie, with my satin and lace eyemask but I do not even own any make up at the moment.

[paulaprimo]

i'm probably a combination of both...
at home, i am a Becky type. just wanting to "feel" enfemme with little or no make up
and a very casual look.
but when i go out, like my poker game i'm an "all in" type of girl and a Nikki type...
not only do i want to feel enfemme, i want to look the part.
i have to be dressed from head to toe, hair, nails and make up spot on, jewelry, the whole nine yards.

[IleneD]

Thank you, Becky.
I am a Becky all the way. [Love you Nikki; really do].

Until The Wife grows more accustomed to seeing Ilene (and she slowly is), and living with the new feminized me, I have infrequent times when I can fully dress (with complete makeup). I could probably do more and force it. She's seen me in full femme. The truth probably is that I don't have the time to get dolled up every day, and like most GG's I don't NEED to put on a lot of make up even for going out.
Right now, I take what part and whatever items of m CD/TG femme life I can fit into it. I always do. I'm always in something "girly", be it panties [24/7], or bra and camisole under a shirt or sweater. I'm having more time around the house to dress but it's often just a simple dress or skirt; maybe my wig and lipstick at best.
I have a couple femme items I wear for bed; a nice nylon lacy slip, panties. Sometimes I just wear leggings.
Again, I'm almost always in something feminine or girly. If I can dress up enough to go out En Femme, I seize upon it. I'm not obsessed so much these days with putting Ilene on public display (though I am suffering an unrelieved Pink Fog attack right now).
Dress and enjoy it when it's feasible. Slowly gaining tolerance (recently came out to a brother ). Slowly, The World is allowing me to be Me.

[Stephanie43]

I’m Becky. As you can see from most of the pics I post, I’m a pretty casual girl. I don’t go out in public dressed, so I don’t go all out with the glam. But even in my casual style, I put on makeup (mainly to practice different looks), my wig and casual attire. Being casual is just who I am, male or female. When I don’t have the opportunity to do my makeup and hair, I still do a few things that make me feel feminine. For example: hairless body, painted toe nails and tucking. Even if my toe nails aren’t painted, just being hairless and tucked reminds me of my fem side, even if I’m in guy mode. I don’t mean to harp a lot on the tucking aspect, but I do that pretty often when home alone or running errands by myself. So for me, tucking makes me feel more feminine. I guess my point is that I don’t always have to see a woman in the mirror to feel like one. I think I may have trailed away from the original question. Becky it is.

[alwayshave]

Becky, I am somewhere in the middle. I don't go out with complete makeup and if I am dressed, I wear a dress. However, I will sleep in a nightgown without makeup. I guess it just depends on the circumstances.

[Ariana225]

I'm going with Becky as well, it takes a long time to perfect everything in the total image, where I can feel like a girl when I sleep in a nightgown and panties

[Terri_Cross]

Most definitely more of a Becky for me. Years ago, I wouldn't have been totally opposed to a Nikki though.

[Jen60]

I agree with Nikki. Anything less, and I’m just a MIAD, and it doesn’t work for me.

[Jaymees22]

More of a Nikki but from time to time a little Becky thrown in. I have never slept fully enfemme, sometimes panties though.

[Samantha981]

In between. I get so little Samantha time, that now when I do I want to go out and will do up the full glam makeup - frankly feel I need the glam to just cover up the man face . But I do like to trade between dresses and heels out and more typical GG outfits - skinny jeans/leggings with long blouses, and flats. When home during Samantha time, I'll dress simply, and sleep after washing the glam off in a nightie gown.

[rachelatshop]

Hi Becky, As much as I would love to be a complete girly girl like Nicky, if that were the only way I could feel girly, I would go for long period of time between ever feeling the girl in me. Therefore no only do i under dress almost every day but at every opertunity I will add girls clothes to complete the outer girl, and only every few months do I get to go full out to be the girly girl complete with makeup.

[Rachael Leigh]

For me being an almost fulltime girl I need some makeup as well but I also sleep enfem without makeup.
everyday I wear women’s clothes at home without makeup because don’t care for guy clothes.
So I guess I’m in between Becky and Nikki
Rachael

[Dana44]

I am mostly a Becky yet I get mam'd an out a lot. So sometimes I am Nikki. but I sleep in fem lingerie a lot.

[Becky Blue]

To clarify slightly Dana, I would never step out unless i was properly made up and dressed. I love doing my makeup properly, I love being glammed up too at times, but i don't need to do that to feel femininne.

[Sarah Doepner]

To clarify slightly Dana, I would never step out unless i was properly made up and dressed. I love doing my makeup properly, I love being glammed up too at times, but i don't need to do that to feel femininne.

Okay, I'm on the Becky Bus. Except I pretty much require full makeup to go out and attempt to be ignored. Without makeup I'd be the center of attention and I wouldn't like that at all, regardless of how feminine I felt.

[Dana44]

Yeah I do makeup on when I go out. But with a clean shaved face and maybe sometimes when not shaved I get mam'd in male clothes for example. But I have long hair and try to keep it nice..

[AllieSF]

I am like Becky except for the nighty. I am comfortable getting dressed up more formally, which I do a lot for my 2 theater subscriptions and all those other outings, and use minimal makeup most of the time and stay away from too much makeup. I am also very comfortable as me, being me, going with minimal touches. I never felt "girly" because I really do not understand that term. I always feel like myself and am comfortable and out with that feeling.

[Emma S]

I'd have to say more of a Becky right now although that's probably more because of lack of supplies at the moment. If I had more to work with I'd probably be more of a Nikki. I want to see more of a woman staring back at me in the mirror than my male persona.

[Shayna]

Ideally a Nikki, but more often a Becky for practical purposes.

[Teresa]

Becky,
I'm more of a Becky !
Everyday is possibly more difficult than dressing to the nines, it's something I'm having to really think about when I move into my new home . Dressing will be almost everyday, waking up (in a nightie ! ) and doing basic makeup, slip on suitable clothes to walk the dog . The rest of the day taken up with household jobs and hopefully some gardening and possibly off to the shops to get my basics for the day .

I love getting dressed up but like many GGs there is a time and place , being a Nikki all the time isn't practical , I won't totally blend in which has been kicked about the forum for years , we know there are signs we give off . The question is will I be a man or a woman well the simple answer is I'll be Teresa whether it be TG or TS I will still dress as naturally as possible .

[Lilly Diadem]

Becky for me.
I don't have a wig or wear makeup anymore but I do generally sleep in a nightgown most nights.
There is no desire to go out dressed anymore so the requirement to pass no longer exists.

Smooth legs and painted toenails are the extent of my (semi) permanent dressing traits and strangely although I love dressing I find long nails and long hair infuriating although a wig was fine but when I did wear one it was removed as soon as I left the 'public' eye.

I have experienced being a Nikki for a couple of years around 20 years ago when single and a little over half my current age but my strong male frame and features would make it very difficult now even if I desired it.

At this time feeling is more important than looking and whilst I am lucky enough to have a SO that will be supportive on whatever I want to do, I am comfortable and content with my current lot.