I feel like I have had a very important epiphany come out of reading everyone's posts to this thread. Recently I was dressed and had my "happy ending" and I was feeling shame from doing this. I was reading posts from this thread later that night when I realized that it wasn't actually shame from being dressed, but rather that I let my being dressed lead to something sexual. It was almost like I was being a "bad crossdresser" because I wasn't dressing just to be dressed. At a subconscious level, I was feeling inferior to the other people on this forum.
Once I brought all of this up to a conscious level, I realized that I was being very judgmental about such a thing. I certainly would not have thought less of someone else on this forum who posted that they had enjoyed a "happy ending" and then changed back into masculine clothing, so why should I judge myself for doing such a thing?
Now, I feel like I can enjoy myself more. When I am "just" dressed in feminine clothing, and when I dress for a sexual thrill. It doesn't matter why I dress. I just do. If I enjoyed myself as a result of being dressed, regardless of what form that enjoyment takes, I should be happy that I have found joy in what I do. Now, when I start feeling some of that shame coming back, I can remind myself that I don't have anything to be ashamed of.