I agree w Tracii, Fetish is the key word. In the very early days of my dressing, I definitely had a panty/bra fetish. It was an extreme turn on for me but went away as I progressed to full dressing, makeup, etc. Fem became the mode I preferred, a natural mode, a relaxing mode. The "sexual" side of dressing has been replaced with the satisfaction of being the person I like to be.