I recently came out to my wife and also scheduled couples counseling for us. My first counseling session is later this week.
I have a lot of emotions floating around my head now so I guess this post is just a chance for me to vent to the sisterhood here.
I truly don’t want to live as a woman or dress all of the time, and I tend to gravitate towards the same type of look - skirts, dresses, and always pantyhose and heels. I happily identify as a man. But on the other hand, I can’t stop thinking about the powerful emotional response when I saw myself for the first time after my professional makeover.
I don’t want to live a life of secrecy. I want to be open and transparent with my wife. But I also know that she has her own limits and her comfort zone is much smaller than mine. I would be selfish to dump all of my true goals into her and expect her to see things the same as I do.
I’m remaining positive though. My wife and I somehow are more emotionally connected now as compared to before I broke the news. She’s ok with me shaving my legs and she even bought me panties. And I’m happy that both my wife and I will be receiving professional help to work our way through this.
Any advice for working with a counselor? This is uncharted territory for me.
Thank you
Lizzie