I've been going out as Nikki for a while now and I have been going out in my own area. I work about an hour away from where I go out dressed in the opposite direction so I don't worry much about being outed. Another thing is that I work in NY which is a cause state. I can't be fired because of how I dress when not working.
I may have an opportunity to work in my own town, here in Pennsylvania (an at will state). Working in sales and being in the area will make my dressing more risky. I am worried that if I am hired, and outed then I put my job at risk. I like the people that know Nikki (the church and stores I attend), but it may be a better opportunity for me and closer to home. My other option, is to stop dressing in town and go further away.
I guess I'm looking for opinions or if anyone else has faced this problem. Honestly, I have maybe 4-5 years before I retire and then there is no problem.