Hi!
Alright, so I've been here for a bit and I said I'd ask lots of questions, so here I am once again! So when I started CDing in the beginning I didn't really take myself too seriously and before I started I actually was crossplaying so I guess that's considered acceptable because it's just cosplay. I've had a lot of fun with it and posted some of my work on various social media pages (instagram, FB, etc..) so all my friends kinda have an idea what I'm into but not really. To them, it's just an art form and a hobby but to me it's becoming something progressively more. I've put some of my CDing on social media and some of my friends have started to question what I'm doing. Even my one friend found my phone with some of my actual CDing pics and was he really uncomfortable when I told him that it was me. After that we haven't really spoken about it since, because I think he would get angry or something, I dunno. Anyway, I want to dress up more but I feel like I can't and I've felt very anxious lately because I just moved in with my other friend and I just don't want to start dressing up all of a sudden and have him thinking I'm weird. It was a bit different when I was living alone because I could, but it's maybe too soon? I mean, I don't think I would freak him out because he dated crossdresser, but I just don't wanna start walking around the house like, "sup this is what I like doing, bro!" So far people know that I do it as a "hobby" like cosplay, but I enjoy it a bit more than just that. I was thinking about telling my mom that I like CDing and what she thinks about it even. She runs the local Sephora so she's always bringing home expensive makeup for me, so I thought that this would be an excellent opportunity for us to get together so she can help me improve makeup skills and we both can enjoy it. But I think she would be accepting because she works in the makeup industry and she's really progressive and understanding, but I also suspect she would feel a bit uneasy that it's her SON now that wants help and wants to dress up like a girl more (like, going out). I think this because before I actually was CDing, I was crossplaying Harley Quinn frequently, and me and my friend would take cosplay photos. I was doing it so much that she started to get a bit angry at me every time she saw my instagram, saying "YOU'RE NOT HARLEY QUINN!" It's like, I'm aware of that, but if she was getting uneasy because of that, then just out-right coming out and saying, "hiya mother, I want to start CDing more, waddya think about that? This is who I am aaaaaaand I like it a lot!" I just think it would go down a little differently then I hope. Point is, I kind of want people to understand that I like CDing and it's more than just a silly hobby. And when I can't dress up I get really anxious and sometimes even nauseous.
What the heck is going on? lol. My initial goal was to slowly ease people into it with a form of mild incrementalism, but the cat is almost out of the bag. I should at least be able to tell my own mother.. ugh.