For the second time in a few years, I find I have to do business with a person that I can't figure out if it's a "he" or a "she". The voice is higher pitched than a typical male but the body is short and not at all masculine or feminine. The hands look a bit masculine but the type of work the person does would "defeminize" hands over time. The hair could be either way. This person gave me their business card (I thought that might be the giveaway) but the name on the card is "E. Smith" (not really smith). I don't know if the "E" stands for Eleanor or Edward. People call the person "E".
This isn't a one time deal. it could last for years so I don't want to say anything insulting. Eventually I'll be able to ask the other customers but it would be easier if I knew up front.
My wife couldn't figure it out either.
What to do?