Excellent positive outcome Ilene. It is always nice to read about personal politics having far less to do with our crossdressing than we think.
Excellent positive outcome Ilene. It is always nice to read about personal politics having far less to do with our crossdressing than we think.
Ilene, I picture you crossing a creek choosing which stone to jump on next......
Well that's one creek crossed. :-)
Work on your elegance,
and beauty will follow.
It generally doesn't work out that way; people have strong beliefs about what is appropriate and what is not, and when a person who's distinctly male comes out as CD TG or TS, instead of understanding, they simply feel angry that they were fooled about that person. Caitlyn Jenner being the best example. Rather than accept that TS is a naturally occuring phenomenon, most people just thought he was mentally ill. Sure, a few will start to try to understand, but most just want their world to reflect how they currently feel, and not have to make any adjustments to it.
Some causes of crossdressing you've probably never even considered: My TG biography at:http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/...=1#post1490560
There's an addendum at post # 82 on that thread, too. It's about a ten minute read.
Why don't we understand our desire to dress, behave and feel like a girl? Because from childhood, boys are told that the worst possible thing we can be, is a sissy. This feeling is so ingrained into our psyche, that we will suppress any thoughts that connect us to being or wanting to be feminine, even to the point of creating separate personalities to assign those female feelings into.
EXACTLY ! And this is one of the reasons that I believe the narrative must be thought out before a transperson shares. Some shares are tougher than others and some explanations need to be more complete than others. Never flinching,nor backing down[aka "CONFIDENCE"] plays a big part. I believe that labels become important because a "crossdresser" is sometimes thought of as "recreational in need " where "transgender" is thought often as "serious gender issues" that the person is handling. Showing that you are the same person,in different packaging, sometimes works for the difficult cases.They will never give your situation much thought anyway,so just change the image in their heads,and move on.
Ilene, what a wonderful story. You have some guts.
Please call me Jamie, I always_have crossdressed, I always will, "alwayshave".
IleneD,
Excellent...well done. I had a similar supportive experience from my youngest daughter. Not so much from oldest daughter coming out last fall.
Rogina,
Ilene is only on the first chapter with her brother, I doubt he is going to take in a bunch of labels at the moment , all he knows is his big brother is more than that he suddenly become a partial sister . He may leave it at that and not want to know more but if he does Ilene can move on with more detail in the next chapter .
I'm on the beach right now and kind of laying low and won't spend a lot of time on the forum.
Just wanted to pop in and thank everyone for the comments and show of support; generally quite supportive and affirmative. Bless you, girls. There are some comments that are so interesting they deserve a thought out response. Give me time.
Thank you all. Yes, another bit of the load is off my back.
There resides within me a Woman, and she is powerful.
She has been my Grace and Bearing on the stormiest seas.
I could no more deny Her than I would my own soul.
Please forgive this but there is no other way to say it: that took real balls!
While I am pretty much fearless about where I go and what I do (and parenthetically I have no brother, which is a truly unique relationship), that could not have been easy especially given your brother's preconceived notions about TG people.
Thank you for your service and I mean that both as a veteran and a member of our little community!
I salute you!
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