While doing some afternoon shopping I said I needed a sports bra. I was pretty nervous, hoping she would say something like "ok", or "do you want me to buy it for you?", but she said, no, & said I should get a binder, and I said no, I really want to wear a bra. She said that's no good, and then I immediately said I want to be a women. It rolled off my tongue so fast it even surprised me. We talked about it for a good while that night. She said she wasn't totally surprised, based on me being caught wearing her bra and very fitted black slip a couple decades ago (I thought I looked really good in the bra with great makeup). But she really does not want me to be a women, but didn't say I couldn't dress, so that part is unknown. As dramatic as this was I was so releaved I finally told her I wanted to be a women. She assumed SRS, breast augmentation, etc.
Now 3 days later things are pretty good, but I want to crossdress in front of her real bad right now, but I don't think it is the right time. Maybe she's warming up to "things" .
Next day update - wife is especially pleasant today, no sign of hurt, anger, nothing but the most pleasant dimeaner. When I came home she had made a perfect meal for my weight losing diet, and was wearing very skinny jeans and a very tight black top (& no br*). Had a pleasant evening. Hopefully things will continue this way.