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    Choosing a GP

    Due to a recent debacle with health insurance (no big surprise these days) I am having to change my GP. Calling for a doctor I was given a choice between two, one female and one male. Without knowing anything else I decided to go with the female doctor. I do plan to be open and upfront about my CD’ing as I do see the importance of my doctor knowing. I am curious if anyone’s else has an opinion on weather to go with a male or female GP as a CD’r?
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    I don’t know if it has anything to do directly with my CDing or if it’s more a wider symptom of Gender Dysphoria, but I’ve always been more comfortable interacting with women in all situations, but especially with something as personal or intimate as a doctor. So yeah I probably would have done the same and just automatically picked the female doctor.

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    I am not sure why my doctor would ever need to know about my crossdressing, unless I was planning to transition.

    Crossdressing does not have any inherent health risks (beyond stabbing your self in the eye with a sharp eyeliner pencil or twisting your ankle walking in heals) nor is it a "risky behavior" that a GP needs to know about.
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    I view it as I am now using more products on myself (eg: makeup, lotions, and quite frankly tight panties and pantyhose) that are not typical to a male lifestyle. I am also now starting a major diet and weight loss regime because to look more feminine is a wonderful reason for me to finally get myself in shape. But generally you are correct a GP may not need to know but since you have that whole doctor patient confidentiality it also presents the unique opertunity to let someone else know who I really am!
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    I don't know about the cd-ing angle in selecting a family physician. I would opt for the female physician based on my medical experiences. I find female doctors are more apt to listen to your medical complaints more than their male counterparts. I too really do not know the necessity for a cross dresser to let a physician know about wearing women's clothing if there is no medical necessity. But, that's your choice. I definitely would advice to let your physician know of your desire to lose weight. A major diet and weight loss program does need some guidance and monitoring.

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    I think it comes down to how comfortable you feel with the doctor you choose.

    Some female doctors are not sympathetic to dressing at all.

    Some male doctors do understand our situation.
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    I would be more incline to discuss private matter with my male doc, female doc ask of many why questions.
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    I plan on getting a new GP as soon as mine retires and I never gave much thought to what gender the Dr should be.
    I choose by reputation and I am open about being gay and a tranny so for me I like to lay the cards on the table so there are no surprises.
    Its a personal thing so do what you want.

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    My wife wanted boys with the male doctor and girls with the female doctor so me and our three sons have the same male doctor. But of all my doctors the best one I had was a female, she was easy going and I felt more comfortable talking to her about things.

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    I have always preferred female doctors, even before I started crossdressing. I felt I could relate to them better.

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    Quote Originally Posted by JeanTG View Post
    For those of age requiring regular prostate exams, remember that on average, female doctor = slimmer fingers
    Female doctors sometimes have bright red one inch long femme nails. Ouch!

    I've had a female dentist for some time. Gentler than the average male doctor, she listens better, smells better, and sometimes a soft breast brushing against my shoulder eliminates the need for novocaine.

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    Quote Originally Posted by JeanTG View Post
    For those of age requiring regular prostate exams, remember that on average, female doctor = slimmer fingers
    For a while I had a female GP for just that reason, I still have a female GP but the PSA blood test has elevated the need for thin fingers.
    Please call me Jamie, I always_have crossdressed, I always will, "alwayshave".

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    I have all female healthcare providers because I find it easier for me to talk about intimate and personal medical issues and i have found them to be more patient, better listeners, and I like all their questions too. As for the DRE and slim fingiers, my doctor stopped doing it because recent research indicates it is highly unreliable and niether the patient nor the doctor are big fans of performing it. Only if the PSA indicates a possible problem will she do it.
    I don't see the need to discuss crossdressing unless you want help with dealing with it and need a referal to a therapist.
    Since I only wear panties, i wear them to my physicals too and never a comment.

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    Just my one data point for what it's worth.

    I've had three PCPs over the past twenty years or so, two male, one female. The woman was much more empathetic and easier to talk to than either of the men, and she took my quirks (crossdressing, polished nails, panties, tattoos and piercings) in stride and even spoke positively about them from time to time. Unfortunately, she left for another position about a year and a half ago, and my new, younger, male doctor is competent and all business but not nearly as personable. (I did have a choice between him and another woman doctor, but she was the parent of a kid I teach in my job at school, which I thought might be awkward.)

    I have seen a couple of male specialists in the past to whom I also related well, but none of them were available to do primary care.

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    I have male and female docs. Had a chiropractor who she and her staff knew I wore panties. No big deal. I have both male and female doctors and pick the ones that are the best.

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    Female every time - doctor, dentist, hairdresser. At one time or another they have all had a question about my nail polish or earrings and we discussed my "hobby", I am comfortable with women, not with men.

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    I think that is what it comes down to for me. I feel more comfortable with women as they are more empathetic and quite frankly I am more apt to listen to them and their advice. I may get flack for this but I also think female doctors are better in general because they have had to work harder and do better than their male counterparts.
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    I too have always felt more comfortable with female doctors. I also like admiring their fashion, makeup or hair. However I did have a male doctor whol told me i had nice panties.

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    Quote Originally Posted by JeanTG View Post
    For those of age requiring regular prostate exams, remember that on average, female doctor = slimmer fingers
    I used to consider that and a female doctor gave me an exam right in front of my wife, but our current doctor does this through blood tests so his finger size is not a concern.

    As for crossdressing, I figure it's best not to tell anyone who doesn't need to know and as long as you can refrain from wearing a bra and panties to your doctor's appointment, he/she doesn't need to know.
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    Interesting question. I've only had male doctors over the years. That is, when I go. Does informing your physician of your CDing matter? Don't really know, but several years ago had a UTI (the blood in my urine scared me) and the doctor treated me with antibiotics. Said that some men do get it. Since then I have often wondered if extreme tucking may have been a cause in which case maybe the doctor's knowledge of my CDing may have helped.
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    Interesting question. I too look for female doctors.
    My GP is female, my dermatologist is female, my endocrinologist (not related to transitioning because I’m not) is female.

    I just feel comfortable with a woman. I do have sexual trauma but I feel comfortable with them.

    No one knows about me CDing but I did call pretending to be a new patient and know they are LGBT friendly.

    My GP knows I’m bi, she also sees my wife and I asked her to keep it quiet and she said she would and that if I ever become active with men, she will test me and such.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Krisi View Post
    I used to consider that and a female doctor gave me an exam right in front of my wife,
    My doctor did that once and he said "Are you sure you want me to do this with her in the room?", before I could even say anything my wife blurted out "I've seen worse", my doctor looked kinda surprised then I said "she's done worse".

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    My theory on Doctors is go to my local Vet they know more about medicines n a body than the normal Doctor does anyway.... But my doctor is a female and a good looking one. I enjoy going to her but in a small town like the one we live close to I wouldn't tell any of them about my secret of CDng. Also I don't see anything happening that I'd need a doc from this activity. I'm taking a chance though as I wear panties almost 100% of the time now. I'm just thinking if I have to call an ambulance I can get them off before they arrive. After I'm dead I won't give a darn. That'll be their new gossip in town when I'm dead and gone.... Lol

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    Quote Originally Posted by Robertacd View Post
    My doctor did that once and he said "Are you sure you want me to do this with her in the room?", before I could even say anything my wife blurted out "I've seen worse", my doctor looked kinda surprised then I said "she's done worse".
    LOL I never go to the doctor with my wife and only went with her when she was pregnant. It would be awkward to have an exam with my wife there lol

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    My first criterion would be competence. I don't need to see a doctor very often and the only time I see my current doctor is to have an annual check up. I don' t have to take routinely any medications so I suppose I am lucky.
    My current doc is a male and is competent. I went to him after a few years with two less than competent doctors; one male the other female.

    The incompetent female doctor prescribed a drug for me called Finasteride that I did not need. It is a drug to suppress the male hormones and supposedly shrinks the prostate gland. All I got was interference with my sexual drive and breasts. I suppose the latter were a pleasant and unexpected outcome though.

    My favorite was a female doctor who was also gay. What I really liked about her was that when I went to see her she would sit and look directly at me and ask questions and listen to my answers.
    While my current doctor is good, he does spend a lot of time looking at a computer screen with all of my "numbers" on it. But he is competent and that is important.
    I see no need in telling my doctor that I am a transvestite. It is not relevant to the few and trivial health issues I have.

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