hello
Listened to "Thinking Aloud" on BBC Radio 4 recently and there was a discussion about "normality in language". The point was made (or at least I think it was) that we don't ask the same questions about things we think or "society" thinks are normal.
Imagine the reaction if you asked your male friends "why did you start wearing men's clothes? how long have you been doing it? do you do it everyday? how do other people react to you wearing men's clothes? Does your wife tolerate it? ...."
Think about it and you might see cross-dressing in a different light!
love J