For most of us who have been in the closet for many many years is there anybody else out there that has put up "walls" and hidden behind them for so long that it's just normal to keep everything to yourself...
My wife knows about Lisa and I we have even talked about gender dysphoria and how it makes me feel, the big issue I have is being totally and completely open with her. I tend to find talking about myself "selfish" so I don't but of course that puts the Genie in the bottle and we all know what happens when the Genie wants out.