Just a general comment to add to the discussion.
When I look back at my life I am often saddened by the missed opportunities to open up to someone about your inner self even when they have presented you with the opportunity.
I understand caution and privacy issues but being a transvestite can be a lonely and isolating experience for many of us and neglecting to open up and honestly share with someone when given the opportunity is a great shame.
So when we come across someone who is like us we should consider the opportunity it represents as well as being careful to not hurt them or to join in or stand silent when people insult and criticize them.