I'm with you on this one Sherry. I have absolutely no desire to look like a school headmistress in a plaid skirt. I want to look well dressed but sexy. In fact, a real woman can be sexy in any clothes, just by virtue of being a woman - the softness in the face for example and the expressiveness in the eyes - I'm thinking of say Emmylou Harris. But as a cross dresser, it's something else that I want to portray. Paradoxically, I mostly want to be seen as sexy by women themselves, attractive to women as a man in a dress. Not be one of them - except in the same way that I already enjoy being in women's company as a man.
I guess that's not the reason everybody here dresses. And I don't want to denigrate those who want to somehow emulate, to a reasonable degree, real women. We are free, within the mores of society at large, to express ourselves any way we see fit. But it isn't, and it needn't, be the same thing for all of us.