Howe many of you have sexul feelings when dressed.As son as I put my stockings on in the mornings I am very aroused, normally in front of the wife so she gets aroused as well.I am a very lucky gurl that she accepts me for how I am.
Howe many of you have sexul feelings when dressed.As son as I put my stockings on in the mornings I am very aroused, normally in front of the wife so she gets aroused as well.I am a very lucky gurl that she accepts me for how I am.
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The sexual aspect of crossdressing went away for me many years ago.
Glynnis,
At your age it must be therapeutic , I'm wasting my time yet at my age waiting for the T level to drop !!
I have to say the sexual side is still there but nowdays I find it more of an irritating distraction , but if we are still fully functioning males sometimes there isn't a choice .
To answer your question no it doesn't sexually arouse me as it once did , most of the time it's usually a rush to get myself ready to get out the door , sex is buried in the background . I'm thinking more of what's on my shopping list and what other jobs need to be done, by the time I get back there's usually enough energy to do some jobs before preparing my meal .
The sexual arousal wanes with time but it still lingers.
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The sexual feel-good neurotransmitters include dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin and a few others. I believe that many of the same neurotransmitters are also associated with crossdressing. Hence there is a sexual component to crossdressing. However, crossdressing isn't just about getting ourselves sexually aroused. As we get older the sexual components to crossdressing seems to wane. Many crossdressers experience little to no sexual arousal when crossdressing, but that doesn't deter our need to crossdress. Even without sexual arousal we still experience comfort, gratification and a sense of belonging. It still makes us happy.
I'm with you glynnis even at 65 years old. My friends take viagra I wear silky panties!
"You're the only one to see the changes you take yourself through", Stevie Wonder
I hate pantyhose so much I can't imagine getting excited putting them on.LOLOL
If that gets your motor running more power to you.
Always have and hopefully always will. I am not as aroused as I once was but the feelings are still alive and lingering each and ever time. I f that feeling ever leaves I will soon lose interest and move on to some other pleasurable thing. No shame, just being real.
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It's worth something just being around to Fuss!
No question it's sexual. In fact, sex cures me of the desire to cross dress - temporarily of course! And that has a lot to do with why I think that cross dressing is pretty much normal male behaviour. I certainly feel very much a man when I do it - the risk taking for example. It's a pity that women in general don't understand that. If their man cross dresses, he's probably pretty manly - in the sense of being interesting, imaginative, experimental, capable, even indeed courageous, qualities that are found in the best of men.
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MiniRoick,
Once the big buzz of risk taking stops that's when you start to really think where am I going with this . I've read your previous thread on another night out , when you can get to the stage of doing ordinary daytime things , I don't mean clothes shopping but a supermarket shop , hardware store , carspares etc. It may not have the same buzz but it still feels good . All the elements coming together in a comfortable way . Just passing people in the street without you or them glancing back and having natural converstaions .
I can see the male suggestion in your CDing but after the sexual component is put to one side there's something else still driving you , it's recogising that female element and accepting it then the male slant will ebb away . The big rush has gone but your needs haven't I'm enjoying that more than anything else now , the guy is gradually disappearing .
I also think that it will always Linger Eh BeverlyOriginally Posted by Beverley Sims
But for me I think that it's my happiness which is more closely linked to any such arousal, and it is a complex combination of things which makes me sexually aroused, not simply dressing!
Stacy!
STOP, Well I just dance the way I feel
Stop breathing imagine none of this is real
Well I just dance the way I feel
Well I just dance the way I feel
Well I just dance the way I feel "Ou Est Le Swimming Pool"
For me it is almost always sensual, but often is sexual. There are times I can’t tuck...
Michelle
Yes, everytime I dress which is quite often. I am a very touchy, feely and sexual as a woman.....
I love analyzing, and the pressure to figure out whether all the pleasure is worth the pain associated with social rejection has motivated me to dig deep.
Clothing has multiple layers of meaning to us and to others, and has specific physical and sensual qualities that feel different depending on both internal and external circumstances. Meanwhile our attention, and that of everyone we see, shifts from internal to external, from subconscious to conscious, from past to present to future, from risk to reward, ... and human emotional and intellectual processing just can't keep up with it all!
I used to feel it invalidated my crossdressing to find that having an orgasm nullified the desire or reduced it to a fetish. Then I realized that almost all clothing is designed to be a frame for sexual advertising- to look more masculine or feminine, to exaggerate primary and secondary sex characteristics, to differentiate between the sexes to promote desire. Once we are sexually satisfied, we have no need for that- temporarily! The sensual components of women's clothes are all still there, but absent the drive for sexual relations, it is just easier [as we see women demonstrating daily] to wear something that doesn't initiate complex relationships with others.
Since masculinity and femininity are learned behaviors, it is no surprise that we may not strongly identify with our assigned roles, and we may simply want to cross over to the other team and be on their side and wear their colors, just so we are not confined to be endlessly chasing them.
When our sexual need is low, we can just enjoy, without any focus on the sexual aspect, the wonderful sensuality of the clothes women are expected to wear [I have heard many women say they crave sturdy fabrics, rough textures, etc- so wanting it all is just human nature as well.] But sensual is just a step away from sexual, so we will often find arousal appearing- from just a faint warm glow to full on wanting!
As we gain experience we see how women and men are all feeling a bit imprisoned- and we are clearly visible escapees- doing our best to navigate our world, where refugees from gender prison are looked at suspiciously!
We are all beautiful...!
Lots and lots of us. You are not alone.
Well said Phili. We are complex beings, that is for sure! I must admit, being a lifetime bachelor, with no chance ofr a wife, it has been sensual and sexual, and when all dolled up, i have desire to be with a gentleman, who would treat me like a lady, but i would not want sexual penetration by a man. Weird!? In guy mode, zero desire to be with any man. I still desire a wife, but it would have to be some very peculiar lady. I must admit, i get very aroused by the tall leggy lady in the mirror.
I think there is always a bit of a turn on for me to dress up. I think if i didn't get that feeling I might not dress. Its a lot of work!
I know for some they claim it is for the craft of it and i guess I do too. I like to take pics and if i don't like what i see I probably wouldn't dress up for a while.
In the beginning, it was climax always, but now it slowed down. It all depends if you fantasise about fond memories of an event, it will be teasing to a climax.
But its always a adrenaline to be all dolled up, even at home alone.
Rayleen
Wanting something is a fantasy which on a long time period clouds your mind and makes you think you need it.
Rayleen
If I am dressing for my boyfriend then yes, absolutely.
For me it was always a sexual thing. So just getting naked for dress was a trigger.
The other trigger was to be alone. It always took me to dress and enjoy sex at least with myself.
I could play everyday and several times a day with toys or if the opportunity shows up I could do whatever to have sex with a man.
So in that road I was very promiscuous and bisexual.
Curiously, after out to my wife the opportunities to dress are daily and the sexual component slowly began to diminish.
Even thought in those days I couldn't understand guys here that weren't interested in sex with men.
It's been two years since that, but in between I had the opportunity to be alone for two weeks and I dress every day and went out to clubs, meet guys etc. but then it hadn't the taste of the forbidden thing.
I don't know. Now that I'm in HRT for a month, T-blockers start working and just a few decline on sexual interest but dressing no longer arouse me.
Now interest in sex with men and women has almost dissapear. I'm bussy in my work. Every day I dress and I enjoy trying new ways to make up, new clothes.
Today I bought tickets for wife to travel overseas for two weeks in July and sincerely, I don't plan to meet a single guy.
So I arrive to the conclusion that Gender is not necessarily connected with sex, but in our minds it could be the highest expression of femininity.
I agree with Richard Novic, when in his book, Alice in Genderland, says that the summit of being a woman is to satisfy the sexual need of a man but all that changed for me. He says that we're teenagers in our feminine life and teenagers are willing to explore sexuality as an expression of their gender.
So now, no sexual arouse when dressing.
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If I want it to, I will pick the sexier items and definitely get aroused. But if I just want to be comfortable it won't be so arousing (but sometimes my wife loves to tease me and it is really easy when I am dressed).
The more u do something, the less exciting it becomes.
I've been dressing sexy for 20+ years. I still get turned on. But, those days of sexual excitement from just throwing on nylons and a bra r long gone!
U can't keep doing the same things over and over and expect to enjoy life to the max. When u try new things, even if they r out of your comfort zone, u may experience new excitement and growth that u never expected.
Challenge yourself and pursue your passions! When your life clock runs out, you'll have few or NO REGRETS!
The clothes don't inspire sexual excitement; that was one of the confusing parts I went through as a kid. As I went through puberty, though, I did get sexually aroused when wearing girl clothes, but also when wearing boy clothes. I suppose like most teen age boys, I just got turned on a lot.....all the time....no matter what I was wearing. The confusing part, was that I felt like I was supposed to be a girl, but it was always a girl that I was attracted to as well. Made for a very confused me so many years ago, before there were sites like this to help crossdressers find their way in life.
Some causes of crossdressing you've probably never even considered: My TG biography at:http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/...=1#post1490560
There's an addendum at post # 82 on that thread, too. It's about a ten minute read.
Why don't we understand our desire to dress, behave and feel like a girl? Because from childhood, boys are told that the worst possible thing we can be, is a sissy. This feeling is so ingrained into our psyche, that we will suppress any thoughts that connect us to being or wanting to be feminine, even to the point of creating separate personalities to assign those female feelings into.
The idea that dressing causes "sexual feelings" in me has it backwards, I think. It is sexual feelings that cause me to dress in the first place. Dressing is just a way to act out my autogynephilia (AGP)- the propensity for a man to be aroused by the thought of himself as a woman. I have AGP whether I dress or not. It is my sexual orientation more or less. Outside of "sexual feelings" I have little or no desire to be a woman. But I have no desire to be a man sexually. That's my quandary.
That was how I used to try and justify crossdressing to myself back in my teens but the truth is it was never sexual for me
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