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    Purging all the clothes

    Today, I purged all my clothes again. This might be a good decision or a bad one, only time will tell.
    Would love to hear your experience about this.


    As for me:

    Reasons to purge
    1. De-clutter my room, as I am sharing house with a couple (who has no idea of my crossdressing choice)
    2. Afraid of being discovered, especially since burglary that happened few years ago and all my clothes were thrown around the room
    3. The ladies that i might date or bring home might accidentally find my clothes
    4. Gravitate towards a minimalist lifestyles
    5. Crossdressing can be a very expensive lifestyle. The urge to go out in public (driving 30 miles away from home), makeups, wigs etc costs money

    Reasons I might regret
    1. Already regretted spending $100-200 for some really cute summer clothing 6 weeks ago, which has gone to the clothes donation bin
    2. Spending lots of money again if or when i succumb to crossdressing again

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    I must have purged a hundred times in my life.
    Mainly thirty plus years ago when society was more against it.
    Now I just try to keep my stash as small as possible.

    When I was about 17 I was dating a very nice girl and thought I could quit so I burned my stash.
    It's strange, we were having incredible sex just about every day for over a year but I still kept dressing every time I got the chance!
    "This is ME" I am not CRAZY, I'm just a GUY who likes dresses!
    Since allot of men dress up in woman's clothing that makes it a manly thing to do!
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    Hi Irene , RULES for PURGING !

    Rule No. 1, Never Purge !!

    Rule No. 2, If you feel that you really must Purge,

    . See RULE No. 1 AGAIN !!

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    Why are you complaining and making up excuses? Is it because you can't accept who you are?

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    Been there, done that....and frankly, I have regretted it each time. (two major purges) I can't predict anyone's future. All I can say is that, despite the best of intentions, I find my way back to this point.

    My motivation, in retrospect, was magical thinking. I wanted to believe that by purging and denying this aspect of myself, I would somehow restore a fatally damaged relationship. It couldn't work, and didn't. I threw away thousands of dollars of clothing and accessories due to wishful thinking. Not that many weeks ago, I purged again, for essentially the same reason...that I couldn't manage a relationship and be transgender. Well, I can't not be transgender...it is not a thing I can dispose of...its intrinsic. Makes it necessary for me to look at the nature of relationships that I can have.

    But that was just my personal experience.

    Good luck!
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    I have purged before too .I regretted it had to start over every time im 60 now i have about 4 boxes of clothes and now i worry that if i die what am i going to do about the clothes i just know i cant trow them out sure as hell ill want to dress again. and since i found this site i have come to accept myself.its who i am and no one or nothing will change it. so if you can avoid purging i would

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    Quitter. There are numerous easy ways to keep this activity clandestine since you're so ashamed of yourself.
    Your reasons for purging are weak and runny. I believe your real issue is paranoia.
    I've waited so long for this time. Makeup is so frustrating. Shaking hands and I look so old. This was a mistake.
    My new maid's outfit is cute. Sure fits tight.
    And then I step into the bedroom and in the mirror, I see a beautiful woman looking back at me.
    Smile, Honey! You look fabulous!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Judy-Somthing View Post
    It's strange, we were having incredible sex just about every day for over a year but I still kept dressing every time I got the chance!
    That resonates with me Judy. Right now I'm in a good place in my life with a woman whom I adore. I certainly don't want for sex. Does that satiate my urge to put on women's clothes? No, on the contrary, it accentuates it!

    You look very good in your avatar by the way.
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    Damn, ladies... A little more diplomacy, maybe?

    Yes, we've all been there, and some of us have learned that the only thing a purge accomplishes is to impoverish us all over again when the inevitable happens, but let's at least pretend to be sympathetic.

    Irene, sweetie, they are correct, you know. You will "succumb" again. That will not be a "failure" and it is nothing to feel guilty or ashamed about. Trust us - you will be happier when you accept this. Yes, discovery is a consideration, but the risk of that should guide your discretion, not your sense of self. Same goes for any potential paramour. When the relationship starts to look serious, it's time to have "the talk". Whatever the result at that point, it will be better than that which will follow the almost inevitable discovery of months, or years, of deception.
    I wish I could tell you how I made that emotional leap to self acceptance. It was long enough ago that being TG was far from in vogue, and coming out to the woman who is still my wife was one of the scariest things I have ever done. It could have gone sideways right then. Odds say it should have, but I had decided that this person was special enough that she deserved to know all of me.

    All I am saying is that this is who you are. Not a label. Not a category. Just another unique person, who deserves to be happy with herself as she really is.

    Hugs,


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    What did Julia Roberts say in Pretty Woman? "Big mistake. Huge".

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    Get a big plastic bag and mothballs shove all your clothes in that until you can come to some decision.

    You then have a second chance. :-)
    Work on your elegance,
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    Yes, I have purged a couple of times and in each case regretted it later. For me it occurred when I thought I was over my crossdressing (silly me) and believed i had no use for my things anymore. Since I now know that's not the case and I have accepted who I am I will never purge again.

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    You could have gotten a locked trunk for under the bed or closet, and if seen, say it was clothes an old girlfriend left and they have sentimental value. Would address many of your items...
    Hugs, Ellen

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    That's funny Ellen. For a minute there I believed you were suggesting she claimed they were the clothes of an ex girlfriend that had so much sentimental value that she has to keep them in a locked box under the marital bed! Best grounds for divorce I've ever heard.

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    I have purged a few times over the years. The main reason was not guilt but storage and security concerns due to moving from one home to another. I have not regretted getting rid of anything but I can certainly understand that feeling. I now have the largest collection of bras, lingerie and dresses than I ever had and would be extremely unhappy to purge my stash. The upside is the thrill of shopping for replacements.

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    I purged about two year ago for the second time. I am finally coming to the realization that this is an integral part of me that will not go away. So once again I have to assemble a new wardrobe lol. But this time it WILL be the last.

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    Reason #5 for doing it is reason #1 reason for regret and not to do it as you are probably just going to slowly restock your feminine wardrobe anyway.

    Although I have to admit #3 had me worried the times my wife stayed over night when we were dating.

    BTW: 30 miles is nothing, I have driven further than that just going out for dinner.
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    It is too late to do anything about your purge now but when you are more comfortable with your crossdressing and you are living in a freer environment you will probably pick up right where you left off. Until then, it is easy to hide a couple pair of panties.

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    Aunt Kelly no sense in coddling a person. Thats part of what is wrong with some people today they have been coddled all their life.
    If they are a quitter let them know.

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    Never purging is a mistake, but not a big one. The only reason to throw something out is you never wear it and you need to make space for something new.

    But eventually, you get to a point where your storage space is too full. Then, when you shop, you have to ask yourself, "What do I throw out to make room for this dress?" If what you decide to throw out looks better than what you want to buy, leave the store immediately. You have reached saturation.

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    When I feel the urge to purge, I put everything in a couple of old suitcases and stash everything away into our hard-to-get-at attic, in an even harder to reach corner.

    It rarely lasts more than a few days, LOL!

    My longest purge was maybe like 10 or 12 years. Never again. Culling the herd to get rid of stuff I no longer like/wear, yes, but purging no.

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    Of course I've purged, who hasn't??
    But here I am and what I've learned is that for me purging is useless. This is who I am and denying it does no good for anyone, me or those I care about.
    Wear what makes you feel Confident !

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    From all of our collective experience I can safely say you are wasting your money. It would be cheaper and faster to just shred your paycheck.

    Within a few months you will be spending lots of money on clothing to replace what you have thrown away.

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    The whole purge thing seems to be a common thing with members here.
    Kind of interesting as to what motivates a person to do that.
    Me personally I have never even considered purging in hopes of stopping.
    I cannot change who I am and what clothes I like.

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    Irene, I also did a huge purge a number of months ago. But recently bought four dresses ebay, and a cheap wig, new pair of heels, hose, and make up! I intended to quit, but also knew i would likely do it again once ina while out of weakness, and loneliness, never having ever had a wife, or steady girlfriend. The urge never totally goes away. I have a gay friend who does not meet for sex any more with guys, but the urge in him never goes completely away, either. I was getting myself in dangerous territory, meeting admirers. That is the main reason i purged. When dressed totally, i feel like a lady, and would like to be treated like a lady, with a true gentleman, but will not do any penetration sex, due to morals, and disease prevention. I have considered purging yet again, but know i will regret it. I totally agree with you, about "minimalizing". I got rid of much of my male clothes, also. Too much stuff, is too much stuff, whether lady thing, or guy thing, or other stuff we pile up!!

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    I did manage to sell some of my lady things on Ebay, or consignment store, but did not make much at all. i tend to undercharge on Ebay!
    Last edited by Alice Torn; 05-25-2018 at 06:21 PM.
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