For me, being 'outed' means my secret or privacy as a man who wears women's clothing has been unintentionally or intentionally revealed to others. If I was seen by a neighbor from whom I have been keeping this secret and the neighbor recognizes me, I'd say I've been 'outed,' unintentionally by myself. If a person who knows of my cross dressing, intentionally or unintentionally blabs to someone who does not know of my secret, I'd say I've been 'outed.'
If I were to make my cross dressing known to others I'd say I am 'out' to them. To me 'out to' and 'outed' differ in whether I intend to keep a secret.