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    Apprehensive about buying a purse.

    I have purchased it all, bra's, skirts, pants, tops, wig(don't need anymore), panty hose, panties, stockings, over sized nails,shoes,make up.

    But I couldn't click a button to buy a purse.

    I didn't expect my reaction at all, the thought of carrying one made me feel I was going over board, how does this even make sense.

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    Enjoy this state of affairs while you can, Samantha. Once you own one purse, they seem to multiply.

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    My wife was donating her old purses and said explicitly I couldn't have them. Granted I didn't like any of them anyways. She did let me keep 2 grey ugly purses (really totes) that were free with purchase from bath and body but only to use to hold my feminine clothes that don't go on hangers. She made it clear she does not want me to have one.

    Now that I realize of my many skirts only 2 have pockets, and one of the skirts only half my phone fits in the pocket. So I am definitely more keen on new skirts having pockets. Yesterday I was looking online at skirts with cargo pockets too!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Aunt Kelly View Post
    Enjoy this state of affairs while you can, Samantha. Once you own one purse, they seem to multiply.
    Wow! Ain't that the truth! It goes double for shoes.

    Quote Originally Posted by Jodie_Lynn View Post
    Kind of on topic.
    In my purse I carry:
    a wallet (with ID, cash, & change)
    a brush
    tissues
    lipstick
    mascara
    eye shadow
    compact
    hand sanitizer
    nail kit (file, clippers, teeny tiny scissors)
    notepad & pen
    mints
    cough drops
    band aids
    mini flashlight
    condoms (because sometimes my BF forgets)
    panty liners (because..... reasons)

    Oh, and my mobile and cigs & lighter
    If I put all that in my pocket, if I can find my pocket, it makes my pants all lumpy and ruins the smooth lines of my girlish figure. And the mints get all melted into the hand sanitizer and don't taste good.
    Last edited by abby054; 06-14-2018 at 03:45 AM.

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    It won’t be overboard once you realize that the only pockets you have in your clothes are too small to actually hold anything. If you leave the house at all it’s a necessity. Now if you’re looking at Michael Kors or Kate Spade or Coach bags, then yes that’s a little overboard for your first purse. But otherwise... it’s just a place to keep your stuff. Don’t overthink it.

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    Micki summrd it up well, it's certainly not overboard if you go out at all. Even if you don't go out it still helps complete the look.
    Last edited by Elizabeth G; 06-13-2018 at 09:07 AM.

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    I've had a tradition for decades that I buy my wife a purse for Christmas. Helped a lot in taking care of buying women's stuff for myself. Hugs, Michelle

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    As pointed out.You can ot go anywhere without a purse. You have to have something to hold things like your keys, identification, phone, lip stick, etc.The size is up to you and if you srart out small I am sure you will soon up the size. My first purse was one that my wife was going to give away. I now have six. Good luck

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    Start off first with a women’s tri or bi fold wallet which can pass as men’s then work your way to a clutch which I see more women using than a purse. Good luck!! :-)

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    It would be awkward at first to leaving it somewhere , because not use to carry a purse.
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    Samantha, Lipstick will melt in your pocket, you have to keep it in a purse.
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    They are now a part of me, naked without one. True style and size are some what a personal taste thing. One rule though, shoes, belt and purse must match but it's not chiseled in stone.
    "you are a strange species and there are many out there;shall I tell you what I find beautiful about you ,you are at your best when things are at their worst" ...[ Starman]
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    I've been very lucky as my wife gave me several purses. I still only use one that I like and it has a strap that goes over my shoulder. You'll feel uncomfortable with it at first but as you use it to freshen up your make up you'll start carrying it more. I did see a GG though once that kept her spare lipstick just inside her bra, that would be a mistake here in this 100degree heat so a purse is a must.

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    I remember when I bought my first, and only, purse; I just went into the thrift store and bought it.
    And I've loved it ever since!

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    I just bought one more! I believe that makes six! I bought most of them from J C Penney's! You have to have something to keep your "stuff" in as women's pockets are too small As someone said, they multiply rapidly just like shoes! LOL Hugs Lana Mae
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    My first one was really exciting when it came, but the second Coach one I scored for $30 on eBay I LOVE! Do it, you’ll be glad you did.

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    Easy to find a good used one cheap, at thrift stores, charity stores.

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    I have five, and to tell the truth, I've gotten so used to carrying one, that I miss it when I am in guy mode.
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    You need a purse. You don't have anywhere else to carry things. Besides, purses are much more convenient than pockets. With pockets you have to load them every morning and unload them every night. And you're always forgetting things. With a purse, everything's right there all the time, and you just have to grab it and go. Get one with a separate pocket for keys, though. Searching for keys in a messy purse is a nightmare.

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    My first purse was not bought. A nicely tooled leather brown number. Found alongside the dumpster at my place of work, in fact. Empty, sadly some lady likely lost it and all contents due to theft or snatching. Great shape, no torn straps, so what is a "gal" to do? Re-purpose it, of course!

    Did subsequently buy a small black purse, wally-world or wherever, more universally suited for a trip to Las Vegas

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    DON’T buy a purse! You will live to regret it. I swear they are more addictive than crack cocaine. I think I have seven Coach bags at last count—no, eight if you count my go to work bag. And a couple of keychains I use as bag charms...And it all started with that first one, a simple brown Coach logo cross body. Then there was the white one, fantastic dress purse, then the grey one for every day use, and then the pink one for more casual outfits. Then the large red shoulder bag for work, and the purple tote for work, and the little black and blue cross body for evenings and parties...somebody keep me away from the clearance shelves at the Coach outlet store, please...
    Carries a spray bottle of "pink fog" around with her in her purse at all times.

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    About 2 years ago I changed from pockets to bag to carry my stuff. I carry it no matter what mode I am in. Here in Denver it is not so unusual to see men carrying bags. I have even seen the man with a bag and the woman he is with not carrying anything. I also have a women's wallet. That sometimes gets a look at checkout and if there is any comment (rarely ever happens) I will tell the man (it is always a man who comments) women's wallets make vastly more sense than men's wallet not matter what gender you are. The message is pretty clear. Around here I even see men with small women's purses, but it is usually more the over the shoulder messenger bag - there are lots that are quite nice and would go with drab or femme. I would not want to go back to pockets.

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    I'm the same way! I've bought everything, the whole works, but do not own a purse.
    It didn't even dawn on me until I went out one night and realized that like nearly every other woman had a purse.
    They seem super convenient and after reading other replies, it looks like once you go Purse it's hard to go back

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    LOL, the responses really made me smile and chuckle..

    I wrote out an entire response , but after reading the posts decided not to paste it.

    I am going to buy a purse.

    Going out very soon to a social event, my first one, I will keep everyone posted.


    Love,

    Samantha

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    Samantha,

    We talk about people watching so just observe just how GG's interact with their handbags as we Brits call them.

    Carrying a bag is one of those things that forms certain mannerisms that GG's have. Seeing a GG clothes shopping without a handbag is like finding hen's teeth. It's the unwritten law.

    One thing you need to remember. When shopping and at the checkout, you must ALWAYS wait until the SA has rung up the till, wrapped all that needs wrapping, told you how much it is before looking in your bag to find your coin purse. No matter how long the queue behind you.

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