Let me be clear at the very outset. This thread isn’t about the mechanics of tucking. It has nothing to do with whether you use tape, gaffs, knickers or any other solution. That information can be found HERE.
What I’m interested in is the mind-set, the way it makes you feel, the psychology of the doing.
I can remember wanting to lose the bulge long before I ever thought of stepping outside enfemme. Having that “appendage” felt alien, I need to look as much like a female as possible so hiding the offending items was the logical thing to do.
We’re all aware of the delicacy of the genitalia, the knowing that even a small knock can be uncomfortable to say the least so taking a course of action that seems to put things in harm’s way can be fraught with trepidation. Posts here have talked about the fear of discomfort being a barrier to experimenting and hence not tucking when dressed. This is where I need to ask questions.
If you don’t tuck what is it that stops you? Fear of possible pain and discomfort or perhaps you just don’t feel the need? Perhaps you’re relatively new to dressing and not really aware of the practice. If feel you’re in need of more advice before trying, go HERE.
If you do tuck, what does it bring to your party? Is it about creating a more convincing silhouette or does knowing things are out of sight, that if naked you look more female, add to your “inner woman”?
For my part being tucked has now become second nature. Certainly taking those first experimental steps was fraught with nervous angst. Once (quickly) mastered there has been no going back. Now that I’ve progressed to going out knowing that I have that flatter profile adds to my confidence, one less thing to give me away. Beyond that even spending time dressed at home being tucked just feels right. Looking in the mirror while wearing a bra and knickers makes me feel good about myself, that I’m on the right road, having things look as they should.
I also believe that, even if subconsciously, knowing that I’m going about with that smooth profile has a real impact. I think it helps in how I feel about myself, calmer, more assured. It’s things such as sitting cross legged knowing my little “Friends” aren’t sat there in my lap is again one of those things that feels right.
What’s also a bit strange is that I can achieve a fairly flat profile without tucking. That does however leave me aware of the family jewels still being in place and that can have the effect of making me feel less femme. And that is perhaps the thing at the core of it for me. There’s an old saying, “If it looks right then it is right” so knowing it either does or doesn’t look right has that impact.
