Hi all,
This past weekend I told a mutual friend of my wife and I about my crossdressing. It wasn't planned but it happened all the same. The one thing I wish I had changed was to speak to my wife beforehand but as it turned out my wife has told me I couldn't have chosen a better person.
The friend is a super close friend to her but one I felt would be non judgemental on the news to me and provide reasoned support to my wife if she needed it.
We have since agreed I will always ensure we discuss it before I tell anyone else. That in itself is a positive as it could have been worded a lot differently i.e don't ever tell anyone else.
I've also taken steps to speak to my gp. Not because I feel I have an issue and shouldn't be doing this but to seek a referral to a councillor who can help me understand more about what I'm doing and help me deal with the feelings that being a crossdresser brings.
It has gone to being a secret I've held in me since I was a boy to having that conversation with my wife a year ago. In a way I'm still pretty isolated in who I can talk to as it's rare for my wife to engage with it and the two others that know I chose more as support for her than for me. Of course I can (as I am now) express feelings here and it goes someway in helping but I think it's now time to go to a deeper level with a professional. It may not be the answer but I need to try as as much as I feel I've done the right things (in the main) in my journey so far it still feels, at times, that it could all implode inside of me.
I wouldnt change the path I've trodden. I think I just need to check the map to confirm the direction.
Tammy