My wife went out for her monthly GG luncheon with like forever friends. I stayed home and cleaned up the house a little. Was going to go out but I didn't want to deal with the heat so stayed home and decided to come here and read some old threads.
I found one that really sadden me. It was called something like ....... what is the worst thing that anyone has ever done or said to you in regard to your CDing.
One wife, who thankfully is now an exwife, told both sides of the family and all friends that her husband was a crossdress and was going to transition to a woman, he had no intention of transitioning. Not going into all the details but they divorced, after he didn't transition things seemed to calm down for him and everyone realized his now exwife was a real bser, liarer and revenge filled person.
There we're many other similar stories some not as bad and some even more horrible. There really are some toxic, evil, hateful people out there.
What I started thinking about was why do so many wives and girl friends of CDERS respond respond in such a negative and hateful way.
When I told my wife about my CDing she deffinatelly did not start jumping up and down clapping her hands yelling I'm so glad for us. There was some crying, hurt (about me hiding it). But four years later we are still together. She is supportive of my dressing but not a participant other than occasional panties or a bra she'll buy for me.
I think we are still together for one very simple yet complex thing. We love each other very deeply and want each other to be truly happy. We are seeing counselors and have been for awhile that have helped each of us with my crossdressing as well as other issues we have that fortunately are not serious deal breakers.
And there in I think is the answer, at least for us. We love each other very deeply and don't have any major problems in our lives.
Maybe I'm wrong but I think alot of the times when we come out to our wives or girl friends there are l other serious underlying problems and maybe not the love we thought was there and the crossdressing is an excuse for an out or in cases of a married couple, divorce.
Why this rant, not sure. But it has made me realize how much I love and appreciate my beautiful wife.
Any comments on why some accept us and why it's such a deal breaker for others.
Thanks, Sidney