For those of you who have a supportive woman, my wife asked what should we talk about when I am dressed as Ellen as opposed to me as drab.
She finally saw me last night with makeup and dressed and could not handle too much more, despite an earlier request to experience more. (This follows earlier in the day of asking me to move out and not return and she was moving to her parents and ending marriage.)
Are the conversation topics different? Do you talk fashion, look at magazines, have tea? How many just stay at home and interact and how many go out together? She is really trying and I don't have interaction experience and more fantasy to go by. I imagined Ellen as a girlfriend and drab as husband to her. But she thought I was too pretty to be her girlfriend - her friends dress plain and they take walks or have tea or sometimes shop but not in heels and dresses with pretty hair and makeup. She said I was the cheerleader type and that we would not have been friends. I tried to just touch her gently and she felt that was feminine. I kissed her cheek, with lipstick on, lightly and she felt that was feminine as well. She thought a man would choose me over her, despite my saying she was the sexy one - I was an illusion of makeup (with heavy beard stubble to try to make it easier on her)
So hoping to learn how to interact with a woman who is trying very hard to be supportive, but finding it very hard.
Thank you for any suggestions,
Hugs, Ellen