thank you sir, I am sorry mam

[marshalynn]

I was in the grocery store yesterday get a few things, went to check out with a 22 year old working at the cash register. We talked about a box of cookies I had that were open on one corner and she went to exchange them for a new box. I was wearing a causal fem top, capri and running shoes. I have natural long hair (mid back) fem eye brows and natural very long nails, painted a very bright pink color. No make up at all, hair a mess and tired. So, I paid from my fem wallet and very pink nails and she said, thank you sir and the next breath she said I am sorry mam. It was the very first sir,mam I have ever gotten. I laughed to myself (not out loud) as I was leavening and said thank you. I have had lots of sirs and a very lot of mams, but this is the first sir,mam. Marshalynn

[Tracii G]

Had that happen a few times I find it funny in a way.

[Rachelakld]

I've only had 1 "sir ,er sorry mam".
but quite right, best not to take ourselves too seriously, besides it can open another fun conversation.

[paulaprimo]

yep, been there, done that! LOL
probably more than i care to mention...

[alwayshave]

Marshalynn, At least she walked it back. Once when dressed I got a "What's up dude".

[-Elle-]

It happens, at least you laughed it off, things like this are often funnier after the moment, not so much in the moment.

[Beverley Sims]

It happens that way sometimes.

Just go with it I say.

[Micki_Finn]

Ironically, I get more “ma’am, oh sorry sir”s when I go out in guy mode.

[Linda E. Woodworth]

You did exactly the right thing. You let it roll off your back and just kept on trucking.

There was no animosity in her comment.

[wilma]

I get the mam and then OH SORRY Sir quite a bit when I'm not dressed, which I kind or like. Get called mam a lot and it makes me smile. I think living here in conservative Utah my long hair make people think female first.

[Teresa]

Marshalyn,
I've not had the sir-mam yet but it is lovely to get a madam and be called a lady .

I admit I'm not good at getting my he/she's right at my social group once I'm chattering away .

[Rachael Leigh]

Went to a drive thru not long ago and the voice is always a give away. The lady says ok pay at the window sir .
Didn’t say anything once I was given my purchase at the window fully dressed. Wonder what went through her mind handing me my card back

[mscaseyjane]

My second time out (3 total outings so far) I experienced a sir-ma'am. Part of it was my own doing... I was wearing a dress and heels, light makeup and earrings. I did not have a wig on and so was wearing my naturally very short haircut. I've seen many black women with very short hair so I thought I'd give it a go. As I was walking into my hotel from the car I opened the door to walk in and saw a gentleman in his way out. I did my normal thing and held the door for him. As he walked out he said thank you si.... Before he finished saying "sir" he quickly said "Sorry ma'am". I simply said "No problem as I stepped in and headed to my room. I snickered a bit and was very appreciative that he caught himself. I totally understood his response given the situation and he was obviously apologetic.

[docrobbysherry]

I sympathize with servers and SA's simply trying to do their job properly. Then, I walk in and scare the heck out of them!

I really don't care. Because I'm obviously a MIAD.
However, I always thank anyone referring to me with fem pronouns. And, for the, "Sir/maam's", I always make a point to tell them how nice it was for them to care when I know how busy they r!

[Joyce Swindell]

I have long hair so while out in man mode I love it when the server comes from behind and welcomes my wife and I with "hello ladies" then stammers out a correction....or not and maybe blushes a little.