Question; Do You Love To Cross-Dress or feel it's an affliction?
Pros and cons.
I am so addicted to dressing, I love dressing fully and shopping for dresses.
I hate when I feel shame.
I feel sad that my wife thinks dressing is all messed up!
Question; Do You Love To Cross-Dress or feel it's an affliction?
Pros and cons.
I am so addicted to dressing, I love dressing fully and shopping for dresses.
I hate when I feel shame.
I feel sad that my wife thinks dressing is all messed up!
"This is ME" I am not CRAZY, I'm just a GUY who likes dresses!
Since allot of men dress up in woman's clothing that makes it a manly thing to do!
Much more fun than fishing.
I do construction like house building and I love CD-ing, what's the difference?
It’s neither. It’s part of who I am that I’ve learned to accept..
Right now I love it. It's infiltrated my brain LOL. I don't feel shame from it, because from my current point of view I'm not doing anything shameful. I know eventually my brain will swtich gears and I'll see it in a different light.
To be rigorously honest, for me it has been an affliction, and i wish i had not been born with it, or wish i had never been born, period, because of it, and other very life and death mental health issues i have, and toxic, bullying family i came from. My dad had no business getting married, and my mom married him, because she felt sorry for him! My dad never wanted sons, and got a severely handicapped daughter who hates men, and three sons after that. One older brother is in prison yet. Criminal minds. i was bullied and picked on all my school years, and at home. Then at age 13, sneaked into my sister and mom's things. Was sexual for the first time, then. Quit out of shame, then was in the service, then occasionally bought hose thru the mail. At age 50, really got into dressing full bore, but it is against the religion i was called into in 1980. I have paranoia, some schizo, and depression and bi polar. Dressing made me feel like the tall, gorgeous women i adored, but could never have. Only short fat girls liked me. I have dated in my 30's and a little in my 40's, but nothing much a all since. Women were very turned off by finding i dressed. It has isolated me even more than i was, and that is not good. Guilt and shame stalk me, so i seldom dress now, but when i do , it is too look classy and sexy. I need to be more social and out of myself, and have more confidence as a man . It would have been nice to never have this additional luggage to bear.
Alice to me it sounds like dressing is the least of your problems. Whats wrong with short fat girls? Anyway, lots of people have all these problems, and instead of cross dressing they have some other obsession. As far as the religion you were called into in the 1980... Look what the silent majority bought with their morality. I certainly don't need their hypocrisy and neither do you.
I agree with Katrina. Dressing is just part of me. I can't deny it and I'm faced to live with it for the rest of my life.
Good question...........I at times feel as if it's an affliction but as I age I have grown into the attitude it's just who I am..........for me it's a constant struggle as I like the MAN I am but also love the woman I can be.....if that makes any sense...........
sarah, I am six foot six. That is why i do not want a short fat lady. I have had short fat women friends often, though. Just my personal choice, i would want a taller woman ,like me.
I know how you feel all my life I have had the guilt and shame .I often think what kind of man would I have been if not for me wanting to dress as a girl.im 60 now I don't think ill ever stop .but it dose wear on you I feel like is this all there is when im dressed I read all the comments on here and some I agree with others I don't .I just want to be happy be myself with out guilt or shame its so hard just hang in there . don't give up on life just try to enjoy when you do dress its part of us all we cant change even if we wanted to believe me I have tried a lot thru my life I have come to see its part of who I am and that's that .
Nope, not at all...…….
af·flic·tion
[əˈflikSH(ə)n]
NOUN
something that causes pain or suffering.
"a crippling affliction of the nervous system"
synonyms: disorder · disease · malady · complaint · ailment · illness · indisposition · scourge · plague · trouble · menace · evil · visitation
To pick a couple of words out of those synonyms: Yes, there was much of my life I can complain about, and I wish I could do over because my gender variance caused trouble. Acceptance of it has allowed me to see it much differently though.
All the bad stuff, the shame, guilt and anguish, was an unfortunate step in the journey. I'm cured of all that if I continue to live in acceptance and live as closely to my authentic self as I can.
Cass
During my teenage years, when I was found out and shamed very badly, it was a curse. So much so that I kept it bottled inside me for 30 years.
Since coming to terms with my dressing and finally acting upon it, I almost don't recognize the person I used to be. I have a hard time understanding how I managed to hold it back for so long. The need to dress is hard wired into my brain and asking me not to cross dress would be tantamount to asking a gay person to stop being gay. Cross dressing makes me feel a freedom and a joy I don't get in guy mode, and that's a blessing.
Xox,
Tina V.
Judy in a word, yes I’ve come to believe it is somewhat of an affliction. The issue we all have as crossdressers or trans folks
is what do we do with it. Do we choose to live with it try to find a way to manage it, say through HRT and other such things
or do we simply find a way to let it not rule our lives. It’s most difficult in whatever we choose in this life of ours and as I tell
people I would not wish being trans on my worst enemy. I do yes believe you are born this way our choice as in anything in
life is what do we do with it then
I do love to crossdress. Can't see why I would do it if I didn't.
Love.
And it is an incredible journey to acceptance. Sometimes fun and sometimes extremely painful. There are moments still when I hear myself saying “I wish this had never entered my life. Why is this my path?”
But I catch myself. The waves come and go but the flow is always in one direction and I realize this is a journey. Sometimes messy. Sometimes a little insane but in the end a beautiful experience.
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I do not see it as an affliction at all. Crossdressing is a part of me. I would not be the person I am today if I didn't do it at all. I think it keeps my masculine and feminine traits in balance. I have many good friends now that I would likely never have even met if not for crossdressing. Besides all that, it is a lot of fun for me. Maybe I'll think about quitting it when it stops being fun. Maybe.....
Phoebe
Its only an affliction if you let it be one.
If you have guilt or shame and can't deal with it then I could see you thinking that.
The key is deciding whether you are going to punish or accept yourself for the person you are. You can fight it like the flow of water in a river, but you can't change the direction the water is going to go. Many TG people have a lot of depression issues. If you are really unhappy about your tendencies, then you need to do something about it. If not, stop beating yourself up, be happy, and go have a cup of coffee, beer, or glass of wine. Peace, sistur!
Veronica
Love who you are! You are uniquely you!!
Love! It is now a huge part of who I am and will probably grow as I go along on my journey! Hugs Lana Mae
Life is worth living!
"Foxy lady! You look so good!!" Jimi Hendrix
The only affliction is the anxiety that comes from not accepting yourself.
It took me over 12 years to get over the guilt.
But, what a wild ride the last 8 have been for Sherry and I!
U can't keep doing the same things over and over and expect to enjoy life to the max. When u try new things, even if they r out of your comfort zone, u may experience new excitement and growth that u never expected.
Challenge yourself and pursue your passions! When your life clock runs out, you'll have few or NO REGRETS!
It's both for me, After all it is a Guilty pleasure.
Like a German Shepard digging into the trash while the family is away, it feels so good to be bad.
But if i had to choose, I'd say I love it more than think it's an affliction. I only think it's an affliction because of my perceptions of how girls will think of it in the hypothetical situation that I'm dating someone.
My personal belief is that it's just clothes and people put too much meaning behind things, myself included.
The moment i escape this belief of "CDing means i'm damaged, gay, gross, disgusting" I will be free.
I always wondered what life would be like if i had friends who knew me 100%, that there wasn't a single detail that i could think up that they wouldn't know.
It's not an affliction for me. It is a part of my life.
I love crossdressing and enjoy every aspect of it. Though I am not 'out' due to priorities in my life (I want to be recognised for other stuff), I am not remotely ashamed of it. I do not with I wasn't a crossdresser but occasionally wish I had not spent so much on dresses.
At some point long ago I might have answered affliction but certainly not now. I absolutely love it.
It is a "affection" based on society. And redtea said 'it's just clothes", but do girls think that it is just clothes, I believe not. And if it is just clothes, how come they are sooooo important and special to all of us? We do not fit in society, I have even heard gay individual's having a distasteful attitudes for crossdressers, how ironic is that? (Sorry, maybe a little off subject)
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