Nikki, talk with your wafe about just that. One thing most of us do not realise is that being a closeted crosadresser who has opened up to your wife actually puts yoir wife in the closet with you. She did not choose to but fallowed you there. Now she has feelings and confusions as well. A lot of cds talk about coming out or being outed but they dont realise that now their so's are in the closet with them. They too now have to deal with the "coming out" and being accepted as a wife who is with a crossdresser. Put your self in her shoes so to speak.