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    Nikki Windsor nikkiwindsor's Avatar
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    The things we do...

    Most people outside our community would never understand how we feel and the lengths we will go to express our femininity. The things we do to present our feminine nature can be laborious, expensive, and time consuming to say the least. Most recently, I just had an enormous desire to model an "off-the-shoulder" and very short-sleeve
    gown. You'd think that would be an easy enough look to create but for me the things it required me to do was lengthy. Let's take a look.

    First...permission to shave

    I had wooly arms...fortunately, my hair color is light but it was very noticeable nonetheless. Off-the-shoulder/short-sleeve gown and hairy arms isn't a good combination. So, most of it had to go and that's where the wife came into the equation. Took some time to get her approval via a quid pro quo (think, expensive options on a recently purchased vehicle to bring her around) for almost complete hair removal.

    Second...shave chest

    Shave the top of the chest...nah, didn't get wife's approval for this one...just went at it with a clipper followed by a recently purchased and expensive epilator...did I mention the pain of epilation, OUCH! Then the expected rash to deal with for a few days.

    Third...rid myself of farmer's tan and then some

    I had farmer's arms. Solving that required getting recommendation from forum friends...since I limit my sun exposure as much as I can I chose the suggestion to apply Neutrogena's "Build a Tan" to my under exposed upper arms until the line of demarkation lessened...fortunately, it worked...but then I was dark on the arms but much lighter in the shoulders, upper back, chest, neck and face - areas that would show when modeling my new gown. Have you read Dr Zeuss' "The Cat in the Hat Comes Back"? It was like my body was experiencing the infamous pink ring. One problem led to another.

    Fourth...tan some more or should I say a lot

    Apply repeated doses of "Build a Tan" on my shoulders, upper back, upper chest until it more closely matched my arms (now, as you'll see in my pic, I have a tan like Brooke Baldwin on CNN).

    Fifth...purchase gown that unfortunately was too tight in the bossom

    Buy the beautiful pink mermaid bandage gown in largest size available (size 12) only to find when slipping it on (or should I say shimmying it on, it's a snug garment for sure!) that it fits absolutely perfectly in my size 41 inch hips and 29 inch waist (corset included as another thing I must do) but is too tight across my 40 inch bust (I could zip it up but my forms were squashed and I risked busting the zipper (ever had that happen?...I have...what a mess that becomes). Yep, I'm a size 10-12 in the hips and waist and a size 14 in the bust...they don't construct gowns like that...custom is where it's at as a thing to do.

    Sixth...gown alterations

    Take the gown for a fitting and alterations by a seamstress to enlarge the bust area a bit. I went to the seamstress in "male mode" which is an unpleasant experience for me but I'm too scared to go out in public en femme at this time. But, I really don't like to be partially dressed. I'm an all the way transformation kind of t-girl. But, I did what I needed to do...oh, the things we do. The seamstress robbed some fabric from my overly long gown and transposed it into two triangular lengths of fabric on each side of the zipper in the bosom area. Made a second trip to the seamstress to pickup her handiwork...tried on the gown, again in male mode, and it fit absolutely perfectly! I tipped the seamstress' assistant who did most of the work and the seamstress who was initially uncomfortable serving me had so much of a smile on her face, a "thank you!" from her lips, and a rush to the back of the shop to tip the assistant before I could even turn around to get out the door. Another thing t-gals often do is tip others very well who provide important services to us (and I tipped her very, very well!).

    Seventh...create hour glass figure

    Are we still counting? - cinch the corset to an uncomfortable but not painful 29 inch waist (down from 33 inches) creating an hour-glass figure of 40inch-29inch-41inch proportions, haul on foundational garments, slip in forms and squeeze into the bandage gown. & wig

    And almost coming to an end of the things we do...complete the makeover transformation which for me takes about an hour and a half because I'm such a perfectionist...we won't even include the expense and research necessary to find my beautiful European hair wig that I just love. And lastly, take and post the pic which you'll find below! Whew! I'm winded just typing and sharing this post and pic with you!
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    Last edited by nikkiwindsor; 08-21-2018 at 05:27 AM.
    Wearing my fuschia bodycon dress:
    For the first time, outdoors during the day:

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    Hi Nikki , What great story, It was like I was watching it unfold right before my eyes.

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    Silver Member Crissy 107's Avatar
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    Nikki, With all your effort and running around I can say it was worth every bit as you look gorgeous!

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    Senior Member Tracy Irving's Avatar
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    Wow. Even I need to kick back and relax after all that!

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    Aspiring Member Sami Brown's Avatar
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    You look fantastic! That was a lot of effort, and I appreciate reading your story.

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    Neanderthal in nylons Julie Denier's Avatar
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    Wow, what a story! And you look fabulous

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    Aspiring Member sarah_hillcrest's Avatar
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    Wow, so much effort, but you look so fabulous, I have to say it was worth it.

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    Junior Member --Nina--'s Avatar
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    lots of work but you look stunning.

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    Yeah Ok like whatever Tracii G's Avatar
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    Between here and there but mostly here close to the donuts.
    You look fabulous
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    Member Lux's Avatar
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    Definitely worth it. Great pic!

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    Silver Member Becky Blue's Avatar
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    The things we do hey, but well worth every second and every $ Nikki, you look awesome
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    Member Kiwi Primrose's Avatar
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    Congratulations, you look great, it was worth all the time and trouble you went to.

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    How did that happen ? Samantha2015's Avatar
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    Wow, I'd say it was worth all the trouble

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    Platinum Member Beverley Sims's Avatar
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    If I threw cold water on this thread it would boil.

    Was it worth the trouble?

    I think it is a fabulous result all round, from the dressmaking to the final product.

    Where did you go after all this.
    Work on your elegance,
    and beauty will follow.

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    Member Brandiaztv's Avatar
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    That was soooo worth it, you look amazing!

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    Silver Member Elizabeth G's Avatar
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    Hi Nikki,

    First let me say you look fantastic in that dress! I can see why you went through so much effort and it paid off imho.

    I too am doing a similar thing. Some months ago I was looking at some pictures of myself en femme and what jumped out at me were two things; farmers tan and shoulder hair. I have been slowly working on the tan but still need to use a tanning product to even things out and I have been getting electrolysis done on my upper arms and shoulders as well as using an epilator on my inner arms and a trimmer on my lower arms. I too corset myself and have various other foundation garments etc that go into my presentation.

    Is it worth it? Ymmv, but it works for me.

    It's just the clothes... isn't it?

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    Gold Member alwayshave's Avatar
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    Nikki, you are so lovely. I understand all the steps taken. From your picture, well worth it.
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    Definitely a great look--worth all the effort!

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    Rural T Girl Teri Ray's Avatar
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    Great story great picture you look wonderful. Your efforts were successful. Thanks for sharing.
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    nikki I think you will agree, the hardest part is having to undress, you look like a woman anybody would like to be.

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    Senior Member Karen RHT's Avatar
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    You look terrific Nikki, and I enjoyed your thought provoking post. I trust you enjoyed your journey as much as your destination.


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    Member Helen Waite's Avatar
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    Well worth the effort for such a fabulous result!

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    Continuing the journey Tina Davis's Avatar
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    Gorgeous dress, Nikki, even with all that time and money adding up over the days of preparation. I hope you enjoyed the dress longer than the photo session lasted!

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    Aspiring Member Linda P.'s Avatar
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    The stunning end result makes the time and effort well justified.
    Like a lady

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    Silver Member Becky Blue's Avatar
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    Nikki perhaps if you could edit your OP and make your list of activities a bulleted list it would be easier for the girls to digest just how much effort you went to
    A.K.A Rebecca & Bec

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