I'm afraid I'm battling the war on two fronts both mentioned here. She has accidentally seen photos of me dressed trolling the internet. She absolutely refuses to see me dressed. She is about seven years older than me and when I'm dressed I look about ten years younger than my actual age. So she has already told me she is threatened by what I look like dressed. On top of that she fears I will want to transition. She has told me she could never have a relationship with a woman, so she chooses to deal with my dressing as another woman in our relationship. She has told me numerous times she would rather deal with knowing I have a mistress rather than participating in a lesbian relationship. It's black and white in her mind and has driven us deeper into DADT. I don't get it and some of my GG friends don't understand her mindset either.