Next month, I will be going out for the first time. Both excited and nervous.
Curious as to what activities you undertook your first time?
Next month, I will be going out for the first time. Both excited and nervous.
Curious as to what activities you undertook your first time?
Lynne
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Unfortunately, I am only able to go out once a year. Every November we go to Maui for our condo association meetings. We spend 2 nights in Waikiki so I can be Dawn.
First time it was a food court in the Royal Hawaiian shopping Plaza. That was a mistake very crowed and bright felt like all eyes where on me. Then walked the shopping area that was less nerve racking. Now we do the same thing just go to restaurants and go window shopping.
Tri-Ess meeting at age eighteen.
Eighteen year old Funny Honey.jpg
This was Not Halloween at fifteen.
This was not dressed up as a PowderPuff cheerleader in high school.
This was fully wearing everything that I went out to buy as my own.
This was letting others know that I was like them.
A man that completely dressed up as a woman in public.
pic for reference
cd meeting small.jpg
My first time out was almost 3 years ago at a Halloween concert/rave in Atlanta with my wife. About 4,000 people and I was dressed as Alice in wonderland, we had so much fun. It was a really good setting for my first time, no bad interactions at all and I met a lot of people.
Over the last several months, there have been a number of posts discussing the thrill/trauma of the first time someone goes out in public fully dressed. My first time was at the last TG/CD weekend at the Rainbow Resort in PA. Prior to that experience no one had ever seen me dressed. Ever!
My point? This was the most accepting, warm, and welcoming environment any one could hope for. The staff; the food; the facilities; the atmosphere; even the very modest expense; were incredible. But, even without all that, I don't think my nerves lasted even 20 minutes. I could hardly believe that I was standing there in full female presentation and being treated like a human being. One that was fully accepted and welcomed. No one even batted an eye. In fact, as I was eating dinner alone the first night, I was invited to join a group of people for desert. I didn't eat alone for the rest of the weekend.
I know that there are a number of people struggling with the concept of appearing in public. And, truthfully, starting in your own neighborhood, even if it is only Halloween, may not be the best first move. If you are anywhere near the Pocono Mtns of PA, I highly recommend this place on this weekend.
If there is a single draw back to this experience it is that, after 3 days of living enfemme, it was a little hard to return to the real world.
I'll be there in Oct. (19-21) Come on in, the water is fine.
VtVicky
DanaOriginally Posted by dana digs sweaters
I am in that reference picture you posted (front and center). That's not a Tri-Ess meeting but one of the DC Trans Girls meetups. Have we met?
My "first" time out was also as a French maid at a Halloween party, but I don't count that one.
For my first "real" time out, I went "all in". I went to the Maryland Renaissance Festival (alone) with thousands of muggles. I rented a "wench" costume and wandered around the faire all day, and hardly got any reaction at all, except from several GGs. I had planned this event out like a military operation, but even still, I was both excited and petrified, not knowing how I would be received. It was a great start when the girls at the costume rental place were so excited and encouraging for me. I had an absolutely wonderful time out and only one scary moment when an obviously drunk guy figured out the secret and confronted me. But the group of friends he was with dragged him away. I didn't get a "ma'am, but I did get a "m'lady". I will never forget that day.
Hi, I'm Steffi and I'm a crossdresser... And I accept and celebrate both sides of me. Or, maybe I'm gender fluid.
No Steffi, pic for reference of what is was like to be out in public fully presenting as a female.
All the prep required as one would think to put one's hand on the doorknob to exit out into the world this way.
Actually quite surprised at the number of peeps there and their varying ages, sizes and styles too.
Pretty wild to see in person of just the my-nute tip of the iceberg of crossdressers that dare to be out also.
Very first time was a drive in daylight through town then out in the country and home! No wig or make up that time! With wig and make up, was downtown Asheville, N.C., to a wig shop as part of a transformation! Night time was not until Keystone 2018! Night time can be dangerous! Use care on picking where you will be! Best wishes Hugs Lana Mae
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"Foxy lady! You look so good!!" Jimi Hendrix
Hmm.. such a long time ago but the first time I ventured out was on a business trip in Little Rock. Just got in my car and drove around, stopped for gas, went through a drive through for dinner. Did that a few times and then gradually started getting more bold. I would probably stick to crossdress friendly venues until you are more comfortable. Gay bars are typically always safe, find a drag show even better or see if you can find a support group or social group in your area. I haven't fully dressed for a while but last time I had the chance I went out to the mall, got my makeup done at Sephora, strolled around, went to some drag shows. All very exhilarating.
My first time out was filled with trepidation. I dressed to blend in, with the exception of hose (my favorite), which are very rarely seen around here, anyway, my intention was to just drive around the neighborhood, but my courage grew, so I went to a park then to an out of town mall. I sat in the car for some time and finally went in. At first, I walked fast, rigid, head down, but finally slowed down, swung my arms more, took smaller steps. No problems. It probably wasn’t until my 4th or 5th time out that I felt more confident. I never wear what I really want to wear...too much unwanted attention.
I don't count semi-cloistered events like Tri-Ess chapter meetings. Don't get me wrong. I am an active member and happily support my sisters there, and to be fair, it wasn't that long ago that one committed a crime by being even that "out in public".
My first truly public outing was a busy Lad Vegas casino in maybe 1996. I don't recommend it for first timers.
My first time out was to go and see a drag show at a gay bar the place was packed I remember saying to myself I am not going in there well I did go in and had a great time
1st time out dressed was at a Halloween party.
Never been out at night (yet) - first trip was to Target, then the grocery store.
Michaela
If you choose not to decide, you still have made a choice. - Rush
My first time out, was taking my dog for a late night walk. I was fully dressed, and I was scared to death!
My first time in public was a Halloween party as a French maid but as Kelly said my first non Halloween even though it was close as in late Oct I went out an about in Las Vegas. Ate dinner at a restaurant and then to see a show. It was great but yes very nervous
My first real time out was with the help of another CD. We met at a CD club and both got ready for the evening. I was far from passable but all dolled up with just having my make up done and dressed up in a skirt, blouse, heels and all.felt great being out as we got a cab and went to a restaurant for dinner. I remember being very nervous and really didn’t eat much but everyone was friendly and it was a great first time out
First night out - not counting attending a support group - it would have been going to Diva's in San Fran in my skinny jeans and platform stilettos this year. I was nervous as hell as I walked from my parked car to Diva's. I wish I had more business trips to San Fran so I could go out dressed.
My first actually night out. I wore a long sleeve turtle neck shirt with a light purple mid calf length skirt and a black wig and hat. I drove through a McDonalds drive thru to get a drink. Then took a drive toward Nashville but stoppef several miled up the hiway to a rest stop. Where I got out, walked to a concession bldg to get a candy bar. Had no problems even though there were cars parked there also. It was at night but the area was fairly well lit with walkways. I was a bit nervous getting out of the car, but at the same time, exciting to get out and walk around dressed as a woman. I am planning on my next outing to go into a small store somewhere, dressed and get a candy bar or something. Still testing waters here. Mid tn. Is still very conservative area and we have many people who frown on any one who dosent own a pick up and or pack heat.
First time out was 1977 Hollywood ca never looked back after that
Susie
My first time out was lunch with the person who did my makeover. Small restaurant was supposed to be not too busy but it ended up being almost full. Handled it ok though.
If it is the first night out, I went for a walk around a college campus near my home.
Divas in San Francisco. I drove. I circled the block for twenty minutes until a spot opened up that was very, very close. I had one drink, and a couple of diet cokes, then went back to my hotel.
First time out .. at night .. I walked around the block in the middle of the night. It was very exciting and seemed like a perfectly good idea!!
First time away from the home area I got in the car and drove to the nearby town. Parked and walked down the main shopping street looking at windows .. at 2 in the morning! Again, very exciting and it seemed like a great plan! (right!!).
Those times, and many to follow, were fueled by a high dose of Adrenalin combined with a healthy dose of fear of being seen, but nothing actually happened.
First time out .. at night .. where I felt good and was among other people, was in London. We were at a weekend getaway with 2 other GG/CD couples and I went with one of the other CD girls to pick up dinner for all of us. It was all surprisingly uneventful and I felt really good about the whole thing. I dont think anyone paid us any particular attention and frankly, I dont think I cared much either. It just felt perfectly normal .. but it was still somehow very exciting.
First time out was with the GG who did my makeover and another TGal.. the 3 of us were dropped off just by Oxford Street In Darlinghurst Sydney on a warm night, the street was packed full of people, talk about a baptism of fire... a quiet bar to start, then a noisier bar, dinner at a Thai restaurant sitting outside with the people flowing past. Then off to a packed massive gay bar where we chatted to a few nice people. We finished off with a night-cap at a quiet bar.. for those of you thinking 4 bars how did you manage to stand up after? well i wanted to enjoy the experience to the fullest so my drink of choice was Diet Coke I just had a glass of red with my meal..
I had outing no 26 last week
A.K.A Rebecca & Bec
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