I have dressed my whole life to whatever extent I found possible. Things have changed a lot in the past few years.
My wife knew about my other side long before we got married. She has gone back and forth between being supportive, being tolerant, and not wanting anything to do with my dressing.
Last year we separated for 5 or 6 months and were not sure we wanted to stay together. There were several issues we had to work out. She was at that point less than supportive of the dressing and wanted to leave for multiple reasons. Therapy both as a couple and individually has helped.
Long story short things have been rocky for a few years but have been improving this year.
I stopped dressing last year during the separation. I think she's happier when I don't.
In the recent months I've had the same old desire to dress but have not because i finally am making headway in our relationship. My kids are both doing better than they were through the separation as well. I do not want to throw out all the progress we have made and I am finding ways to feel cute without clothes.
I have done a better job of moisturizing and keeping my hair trimmed and stylish... trying to keep my nails trimmed and neat etc. Little things help but the desire is still there.
About a week ago my wife made a comment to the effect of.... "you could wear panties... I would be ok with those they didn't bother me, but would that just make you want more? "
I honestly don't know if I'm ready to trust her with that side of me again. When we separated she was quite adamant that I was to blame and frequently complained about my dressing among other things.
I don't think I can just ignore that side of me for the rest of my life either....
I'm sort of stuck at the moment... or at least it feels that way.
Have any of you dealt with stopping your dressing or reducing it for a spouse?
Anyone with your own experiences I would greatly appreciate knowing that I'm not alone in wondering if I can go on not dressing or be happy with much less...
Thanks for reading.