I realize that I didn't tell my wife that I crossdressed, so I'm guilty of that. But I've tried to get her to understand that it isn't just a habit or a hobby, but it just hasn't worked. Every time we get angry about something it is because of my crossdressing. This includes questions of whether I'm gay or not every time. So obviously nothing has gotten through. I have to gather up my courage and do something about it, which is to move out, one way or another. While it is not a hobby to me, it is one of the very few things that makes me happy. I won't waste my time trying to do without it, including purging. It hasn't exactly been a joyful 35 years, but I need something to go through with this.