Not conducting a scientific poll here per se, but just curious...
For those of us out there with unaccepting or unsupportive (i.e. DADT) wives or SO's and whose sex lives are either unfulfilling or now non-existent, which came first?...
- Your intimacy and/or sex life with your partner deteriorated appalling over the years because of her non-acceptance and on-going tensions over your crossdressing, or
- Your crossdressing activities increased in direct proportion to the increased non-acceptance of your partner and the corresponding loss of intimacy as a kind of substitute (proxy girlfriend?), or
- A combination of the two
As for myself, I would probably put myself in the third category.
Of course, if we were "real" men, all of this would likely be a moot point, and we would simply have cheated on our wives or SO's, which is what the average "real" man with no other options would tend to do.