For some reason crossdessing and being gay is very much associated, even my wife of thirty years makes a connection, knowing I'm not gay.
My wife has a co-worker getting married and she asked me if I knew a place that she can buy some sex toys for a joke because they plan on giving her a staget. I looked up a place on the Internet that would be close for her to go on the way home from work.
I get home from work and she calls me and says that she found the place and the staff is very friendly and since she's there does Maria need anything??? WHAT? I stop and take my mind out of the gutter and remember that place has pantyhose, panties and sexy nighties and then ask my wife what does she mean, said is Maria interested in a toy.
I told her no and when she got home I asked her why she thought I would be interested in something like that and I didn't deny that in the past at times when I was dressed I told her I wonder what it would be like to get the attention from a man, but I never attempted it or looked for it. I told her if she wanted to change things up in bedroom that would be OK with me, but she asked does Maria need anything.
She told me she doesn't know what Maria does she alone and what Maria does to satisfy her needs. I told her first of all I know we talk about Maria as a third party that's OK with me and maybe she separates us as separate people but I think after thirty plus years of marriage I think she knows I'm not gay and asking her why is she making a connection like that. She says she doesn't know, maybe it's because the way I try to dress so perfect or the way I usally dress sexy, that feels I would like to attract men.
I believe we will never lose that connection of us all crossdressers being gay.