It’s become a sort of annual pilgrimage for me to attend the Concord social group (http://www.manchesterconcord.org.uk/) that meets in Manchester’s gay village currently on a weekly basis. That said reading their website the group is experiencing diminishing numbers with the following text offering a possible explanation.
For the last six or seven years, the club has experienced declining attendances. The poor ambience of certain venues didn’t help, but clubs like ours are probably less necessary that we once were. Transgender people are far more accepted in the community now, though there can still be problems and common sense is still required out in public. The need for special places with restricted access just isn’t there any more to anything like the same degree.
So is this a sign that both the public’s and the CD’ing communities attitudes have and are changing. People no longer feel it’s necessary to meet in secret. Why have a private room in a Gay bar? Folks are now more inclined to sit with others from the LGBT community amidst the normal hubbub of the pub’s ambiance. Some in the community might not feel confident enough to meet in a “straight” pub or restaurant but in a Gay pub/bar that’s a different matter.
I have mixed feelings about this. It was attending a closed social group that first gave me the confidence to really go out in public and hit the stores. Would I have attended that hotel if the meetings hadn’t been in a separate room? Will others miss out on such opportunities to take those first steps if gatherings move more to where they’re in the public’s gaze?
Against that it’s good to see that many CD’ers are gaining ever more confidence, being comfortable to be seen and interact albeit within the relatively safe environments of the gay village.
It’s all too easy for those who’ve been out and about to say to those teetering on the brink of going out, “Just do it and be confident”, wise words though they are. For some a little help and support goes a long way and undoubtedly hastened my journey. Add to that there are still many venues where it would be unwise for a group of CD’ers to turn up at without first scouting the area. Even then, rogue individuals buoyed by beer can be a problem. Groups meeting in known safe locations such as the Gay village still have a role to play.
So yes, it’s a good omen and no, I fear some may miss out.
By way of a footnote, if there are any UK gurls who would like to take the opportunity for a meetup in a safe environment, I’ve posted the details here in the “Places to Go” section.