Jerntay,
Whether I am annoying insensitive or slow to understand (SIRI's definition) or not what it means, I have not heard that expression before and therefore simply asked for a clarification. I should not have to read your sarcasm "Have to be pretty obtuse" to get an understandable and clear explanation. That was uncalled for. We all have our own experiences some similar and some not to others' experiences. Therefore, we may or may not understand someones use of particular words or phrases when they make a comment on something. All your other comments I pretty much understand and have friends who have experienced some or all of that.