I just want to drop this here because every Halloween it's the same ole story here. Girls want to go out and others try to keep them from doing so. It's happened every year since I have been here and this year looks to be no different.
I understand there are pro's and con's of using Halloween as an excuse to get out there but with everything we do, we do it in baby steps, until we reach a comfort and confidence level where we don't need a crutch or "excuse" to fall back on if we are seen or recognized by someone we know.
There are many ways to enjoy dressing fully, from head to toe, with minimum risk. Go to a park (I do this almost every year) , go to a almost dead mall, go to an outside mall, go way out from home where it doesn't matter at all and enjoy the drive as a woman. many different places to go, many different experiences but spending the day outside, somewhere, mere words can not explain.
Halloween parties are a different story but not by much. Yes, if your worried about being outed then you probably should do a female costume or a very badly made up woman (cheap wig, full beard, wobbling around in heels, etc, etc, etc) and play it as it is but there is NOTHING saying that You can't go all nine's and do a really good job of it and go to a party.
Maybe, if your a person like me, you don't like doing things half way, if your SO is going then she could have helped, it's not like they would know different unless she says "nope, he did it all his self" to everyone she comes across and from what we read around here, most SO's would never do that afraid it may fall back on her in some way, shape, or form. .
The moral of this post is: Please do not try to discourage a sister this holiday season from trying to take another baby step in her personal evolution when it comes to her dressing. The feeling and experience of being outside, ANY WHERE, is beyond words and had i listened to the posts 4-5 years ago I would have never had that experience and would probably be sitting here wishing I could go out this holiday season before it's gone another year.
A lot of you identify as TG and going out dressed every day, let alone on or around Halloween, is easy peasy at this point and is a non issue. You give it no thought, you see it as normal everyday behavior, you have fought through the fears and everything else that comes with it, it's just another day in your life.
For those of us that DO identify as Cross dresser's, It's not an every day thing, we don't get out there when ever we feel like it and we are over come with a lot of fears that were conquered bu others long ago. Hell, even shopping is a major deal to some of us. We have a long way to go to accepting this life style hat we didn't have a lot of say in, discouraging any one from taking that small step (which isn't small to us) is shameful.
In closing to the sisters that want to get out there, be nike, just do it. Doesn't matter how, where, when, or why....if you want an experience you will always remember. GO. Halloween is one day of 365 till it happens again and believe me, you'll spend those 365 days regretting not doing it because some one told you that you would be outed the minute you crossed that door way.
I'm done, just wanted to get this off my chest for yet another year.
Have a safe Halloween
Joanne